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I haven't had ANY sex with my wife in almost 3 years. Nothing.
Obviously, we have a lot of issues, but wouldn't any normal, warm blooded male have cheated on her by now?
It's gotten to the point that, I don't think I would feel guilty if I did...
Cheating is a horrible thing to do for any reason. Leave her if you don't want to work things out. But yes, it is normal to have a good heart. It means you are a good man.
Why is there no sex? I would try and find a solution to that problem first before going to any extreme measures like cheating. If you cheat, you are a horrible excuse for a human being. Break up and get a divorce if you have to, but don't cheat.
Why it is called cheating if u enjoy ur cock inside a pussy of a different girl. U r not going to killl her. Just enjoying her pussy. It is necessary to enjoy different girls.
I do very much of the housework. Dishes, wash floors, vacuum, help with laundry. I'm not much for dusting, but I do anything else that is needed. I am more of a clean freak than she is.
I had wondered if she was seeing someone else, and have openly asked her in a non-threatening way on a number of different occasions. Honestly, I almost wished she would have said yes. I think it would be less painful knowing she was having an affair verses not understanding why we don't.
I've never done anything intentional to hurt her. I've never came home drunk, I've never been gone for days on end without telling her. I've never verbally abused her and certainly have never even considered hitting her.
I would give her the world, but I don't think she wants it...from me.
Of course she said 'no' when asked. When I first challenged my cheating wife, with a print of a text from him to her that said he would have to 'wash the soggy bed sheets' before his wife came home, and her reply apologizing for being 'too wet' - she still flat denied it.
Have you considered the possibility that she isn't having sex with you because she is getting it elsewhere?
How much are you involved in the parenting? Did parenting only change her life and is she carrying the full burden?
I saw some research recently that said men who do housework get more sex, presumably because whether or not we express it, most women hate being the servant and doing all the boring everyday stuff
I certainly can not disagree. I don't really want to cheat on her, but damn! I've nearly forgotten what it even feels like anymore, and frankly I'm getting sick of playing 'by myself'.
Why no sex? She went from a wife, to a mother, and never looked back. Of what we used to give each other (attention), seems now 100% into the kids on her end.
I agree with this. You can't be mad at her for being a devoted mother. At the same time though, she needs to realize that you need some time together too. If only just a little, every once in a while. Having a sexless marriage is definitely a deal breaker.
You need to talk to her and let her know how you're feeling about all this.
I wonder how your wife would react if she found out? How do you think she would react?
If what you are telling us is true, why would she care? It doesn't sound like she's going to rekindle your physical relationship, and you certainly sound like you've given up.
Do you care at all if you hurt her?
You should probably have a talk with her, don't you think.
Sex certainly isn't the most important part of a marriage, but it doesn't sound as if you care for her at all, so I'm with those above in saying; break up. Both of you should have an opportunity for happiness without the other.
I'll just echo what the others have already said. If you cheat, you're a douche. If you have issues in your relationship work through them. If they can't be worked out, get a divorce. Hell, maybe there's just something up with her libido and if you have a very open minded wife she would condone you seeking purely sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Doubtful, but stranger things have happened. But cheating is never a good act.