Is it normal that i have no feelings?

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I don't feel love anymore. I loved a girl a long time ago, very intensely, but we parted. I was happy for a while, thinking that somehow I was free of this feeling and the pain it brought, but then I found out she got addicted to heroin and was violently murdered by her drug-dealing boyfriend a few years after we parted... I realized I had never stopped loving her in an instant, and that all my hatred of her was actually my disappointed love, which never died.

Now I can't feel anything. I have lust, sure. I get pissed off at stupid people, yes. But I can't feel any sort of attachement to anybody, people are just like Solo cups to me now; useful in their moment but no intrinsic value. I am engaged, I tell her I love her. I don't, I just don't want to hurt her and she's useful to me.

It didn't use to be like this. I used to feel romantically attracted to women, they could break my heart, but now...

IS it normal that my heart is her grave?

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Based on 34 votes (18 yes)
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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    You need therapy. This has weighed down on you for too long and now other people are going to get hurt too.

    You're not a lost cause you just haven't fully grieved yet. Please don't give up on yourself.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    He is a rock, he is an island.
    And a rock feels no pain;
    And an island never cries.

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    • ikky
      8 years ago

      i like this!

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    Having no feelings is a feeling. And feelings come and go.

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  • Miserable
    8 years ago

    My past partner died 7yrs ago it took me 5+yrs to stop crying. I use to go out every weekend n get wasted n jump on every guy! I never got therapy this was how I dealt with it. No one can replace that one true love. Sorry to hear about ur loss.

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  • emma_lb12
    8 years ago

    It sounds like you need to go talk to someone :( you've been through a terrible ordeal and it sounds like you're putting up emotional walls as a defense mechanism. It's no fault of your own and I really hope things get better for you!!

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  • ikky
    8 years ago

    this is too much. sadly sometimes i feel the same, and i know how its like to tell someone u love while your not sure about it. i'm also engaged.

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