Is it normal that i have an ambition to have a rock band since i was 6 yrs old?

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well, since i was like 6 i have this dream of having a really really succesful band, i think i can call it obsession, and i truly believe it will happen, idk, maybe i'm too romantic to believe it, even if sometimes i say to myself "I don't want this fucking dream inside my head, get out, GET OUT!" but it doesnt matter what i do or say to myself, it's always there screaming in my ear. now i'm 17 and it seems like this fucking obsession doesnt leave. I know some people may think"oh that's good if u have something to believe, bla bla" but i think its just taking my time, cause in the surface i think it wont happen, but deep inside there's something that dilacerates me and keep me believing it will happen like i'm paranoid, crazy or something like that. and it makes me sad cause i believe w/ all my heart. (last week i saw that movie MONSTER 'bout Aileen Wuornos and right in the beggining that actress charlize theron says everything i'm thinking all this time about, and i don't wanna end like wuornos, giving up on my dreams and live a shitty life) maybe some advices?

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  • iEatZombies_
    9 years ago

    My advice is, if you're serious about playing music for a living, be careful not to assume success has so much to do with being famous or rich from what you do. You can be very successful if you lower your assumption of what success actually is and you really observe how to create the proper environment for that success. You want to be a rockstar- so play shows, learn to play your instrument of choice well, practice good stage presence, be business savy. Realize, too, that many musicians you work with have unrealstic ideas of what success is. If they paint this image in their head, they will drag you down with it. It's really easy to get carried away in your imagination when your very career involves creativity.
    The best way you can measure whether or not you're taking realistic steps is to look at where you've been and compare it to where you are currently. For example, how well you play. If say you didn't know scales one year ago, but at this point you know major and minor scale, the blues scale, etc.

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    • iEatZombies_
      9 years ago

      then you know you are improving. That is what success really is. Meeting one goal at a time, and seeing what each achievement has brought you in your life. Don't ever assume that success is a farfetched status that is right within your grasp.

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    • Demri
      9 years ago

      oh no it's not about money or being famous, not this kind of things. I just want to live all my life playing music and at least survive from it. But it just seems so hard to get people to be in a band, cause i'm so shy, i just can't ask someone "hey let's play? have a rock band?" i don't know why. and my guitar's broken, like 1 year ago, so.. (And sorry if i said something wrong, english's not my mother tongue)

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      • Demri
        9 years ago

        now what would really be a HUGE success to me is start a band

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        • iEatZombies_
          9 years ago

          I wasn't trying to say you were, that's just the best advice I could give someone who wants to play out. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders already, so I couldn't really give you any other advice. If you already have this in mind, you're already doing what you should do.
          When it comes to starting a band, if you have a hard time with that whole social part, focus on playing at various little spots by yourself. Which would of course entail that you learn some solo pieces. They don't have to be complicated, they just have to grab attention. You let the music do the talking for you. You'll be in a band before you know it.

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          • Demri
            9 years ago

            Well, i truly hope youre right bout having a band before i know it, heh. I just hope i don't lose any opportunity to start a band. Really, thank you for the advice.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm a musician and it's not an easy business. It's a great hobby, but there is no money in it for 99.9% of us.

    If you want to be in a band, just write some songs. I know several people who whine about wanting other people to help them with their music, but you have to make it yourself and people will eventually want to join, but you absolutely either have to write your own songs and possibly play guitar and sing to computerized drums, or join someone else's band and learn their songs they already made.

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    • Demri
      9 years ago

      well, i already write my own songs and play guitar too. The worst part till now is get people to start the band

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Program drums on the computer and whatever else you want to add to the song and do it yourself. All you need is a computer to back everything up and you can be a one man band. I know it sounds boring, but eventually people will want to join when they see you doing something active. Nobody will want to join a band that isn't already doing something. They might as well start their own band otherwise.

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        • Demri
          9 years ago

          ok, thanks for the advice! (:

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    You don't need to join a band to make good music happen, although it would be ideal.
    There are tons of software you can use to record your own songs. FL Studio springs to mind... Reason also just popped in my head.. or how about Sequel 3 or maybe Cubase?
    My band uses Sequel to record our own stuff

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