Is it normal that i hate my mother for ruining my life ?

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Well I know that a person chooses his own life and he is master of his own destiny.

But what happens if your mother is a control freak who tries to control and manipulate your life to such a level that she gets to emotionally blackmail me to get on with her ways.

I have been single all my life as my mother does not allow me to talk to girls or meet any women.

She calls me every now and then to check if I am with a girl or not.

I tried to move out of the house to meet a woman and get married but my mother emotionally blackmailed me saying that I am abandoning an old woman for my own pleasure.

I am 30 years old single virgin male who has not even had opportunity to talk to women (forget about holding or kissing a woman).

I am a teetotaler and a vegetarian guy who has lost all the hopes in like to meet a woman in life.

I have never had a regular childhood or a teen age life.

Sometimes I wish I had met girls in my college and had sex with them , just like all my friends did.

I stayed away from having sex with girls back then ,because I always hoped I would meet a wonderful woman and marry one day.

I believe sex should be within marriage.

Now as I have entered my 30's I believe that I was a fool to not have sex in my teens and 20's and I have wasted some of the best years of my life.

If there is anyone out there willing to share experience or advice .Please do share your opinions.

Also I have a habit of not hiding anything from my mother and I tell her everything honestly.

I know many people will suggest to move away or meet girls against my mom's wish but Its though to do so as I was raised in a conservative family.

I hate my mom for ruining my but I love her as a mother who brought me into this world.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    The choice is clear: stay under your mother's influence until you or she dies and nothing will change OR get out now and live your own life.

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    • dupare
      7 years ago

      thankss

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  • youngOG2016
    7 years ago

    I understand your delima though I can't say I relate to this exact situation. You have to get away from your mother. For you to be 30, and for her to still have these continual phycological affects on you is sad. Sometimes parents can be the main ones to hold us back from our destiny and they not even know it. Get out into the world and meet some women. Dont tell them you are a virgin bc it'll be a turn-off. Get out and do your thing. Its your life not hers!

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    • dupare
      7 years ago

      thanks for your reply . i am glad you replied

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  • Animastic
    7 years ago

    Man, you didnt come to this world to always be around your mom. I hate my mom too.. She doesnt hear anyone she just screams all day and use everything to start complaining and cursing.. I love her. But even my dad agrees with me. She needs to change her ways. I mean the way she screams at me a calls me names sometimes, it really puts heavy pain in my heart. She then says its only because she wants me to succeed in life. But her actions totally dont support that. She brings me down everytime and i just try to live with that, fight that and do what i want when i want and how i want it. My friend i am 22 not 30... I started to defy my moms rules when i she didnt made any sense...we have to try life.. Fall Hard and get back up..dont fear failing goals, its not the end of anything. Its just a start to make you better everyday as a human on this planet. My mom wasnt always like that to me... She talked very dearly to.me as a Child and would give everthing to me spoiling me... I grown up realised all that and made my man figure be felt by my parents. Always trying to show them what i can do on my own. You are still young. Don't be afraid. You dont even have to think about it or question this anymore. Do whatever you feel like doing. If your mom doesnt like it and makes you feel bad.. Or doesnt understand... Dont care about any of it. If she loves you she will know its time for you to leave under her wings..

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    • dupare
      7 years ago

      Thanks for your useful inputs

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