Is it normal that i hate being around my mom?

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I can never have a pleasant moment while being around her. Even the best of mornings are ruined with her bitter demands.
She is never any fun and acts like taking me out to a restaurant will fix everything but I keep on telling her no because it won't do anything. I want her to listen to me but she never does.

How can I have a happy life with someone that pretends to want a good relationship but doesn't put in the effort? All I want is someone to listen to me.

She is really hypocritical and never looks at what she says and does (not just with me) so I can't stand her. I don't care how nice she thinks she is, if you can't see when you do something wrong you will never truly be a good person.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    You want her to listen to you, but do you have anything to say? Beyond pointing out what you see as her faults, I mean.

    Nobody is perfect, but my guess is that your mom isn't the source of your distress. If you hate yourself, you'll project that hate into everyone around you. Anything your mom does or says is tainted by your perception. It's not her bitterness but your own that prompted you to write this post.

    Focus on fixing yourself before you worry about fixing others.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      She has literally asked for help, and proceed to get mad at me and do what she wants when I gave her that help. I'm not the only stubborn b*stard in the house.

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  • turdferguson73
    6 years ago

    There's nothing abnormal about hating your mom. My mother treats me like shit and has all of the rest of the family hating me too. Of course I hate her!

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  • Youngvictoria
    6 years ago

    I don't get along with my mom either...teenage years were tumultuous and similar to what you describe. Best advice I can give is just keep some space from her, don't even try to engage conversation with her just keep distance. I'm in my 30s now and see her only at holidays. That time is not fun at all and she still is miserable to be around but I'm glad I didn't just cut off all relations with her although I considered it very seriously. Much better to not have to live with that guilt and just suck it up and see her from time to time. Some day you may have grandchildren and you don't want to explain to them why they aren't allowed to meet their grandma. Someday she will be on her deathbed and you won't get to say goodbye. I recently went to a funeral for a family member and his son had been estranged for 25 years and showed up at the funeral and just completely lost it sobbing it was so sad (from tbe guilt). So yeah to sum it up just keep a good distance but don't cut off all relationsz

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    If you both have tried everything to get along then it is time to continue your journey along life without your mother.

    Good luck.

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