Is it normal that i hate all of my family?

I am 19, I grew up with a single mother. Our dad left us when I was 5. When I would get into trouble my mom always turned her back on me. If a kid punched me in school and I punched him back, I took all the hate from both the guy who started it,his parents, and my mom. I feel like all my life my family have tried to step on me because I didn't have a father, we were poor vulnerable people. My mom always complained about my grades growing up. To this day, my mother's major hobby is to be on the phone, gossip about me all day, and cause my family to hate me. All my life I had to work hard to be accepted, I was criticized, I was seen as inferior because my mom didn't stand up for me, she felt weak. I feel like my mom, who is the only person I should trust, has betrayed me for her family. When I was little, all of her brothers and sisters made fun of me, I was different and they couldn't respect it. Now if they make fun of me and I don't want to take it, I can easily kick their ass. Hate has made me stronger. I just want to keep working in my current job until I have enough money to buy a car then quit my job because I think it is very abusive to work in a place very far away from where I live. Then I want to get a different closer job and support myself and never want to hear from anyone with my second last name again. When I am like in my twenties, I want to remove their last name from me. I don't care anymore. I don't think I can fix things considering I no longer even hold the same religion as them (they don't know yet). They never even remember my birthday and my mother had to pay them money to come spend the day with me. My mom also ruined my relationship with them thanks to her gossip she told them that I no longer have the energy/nor want to put up with.