Is it normal that i hate, absolutely hate it, when people ask about my feelings

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I have noticed that for awhile now I seem to get frustrated at people when they ask about my feelings. I'm not sure why this is but it is the same thing if someone asks me anything about myself. I get all defensive and avoid the question and I grow angrier if they keep asking questions. I get a sort of "Who do you think you are, trying to learn about me? Get out of my sight" type of feeling. I think it may have to do with low self-esteem or trust issues but I just hate it when people ask questions about me or my feelings, and I hate it more if they learn about me. is it normal to feel this way about people wanting to learn about me?

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  • Nunallyn
    11 years ago

    YES. I sit/stand by myself during lunch or walk around because all of my friends have different lunch times. Sometimes I stay with acquaintances that I barely know but other times I want to be left alone. Every now and then when I'm just standing or sitting there drawing or reading a book, just minding my own business, a teacher/police officer I've never seen before will ask me 2 or 3 times if I'm okay and if I'm sure I'm okay since I'm sitting there by myself. What do I look suicidal? I know my default expression can look slightly sad if I'm not thinking about it but come on.

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    • Paradiddle
      11 years ago

      While I don't get mad when people ask about my feelings, I CAN agree that I hate it when this happens to me. People have told me that I either look mad all the time or sad all the time and my default expression must come off as sad to some, enough so that they feel the need to approach me and straight ask me whats wrong or one person even said "It'll be okay!" when I was WORKING on a job. I'm doing just fine and loving every payday ma'am, its not normal for people to shine their pearly whites constantly like some mentally challenged person, no one does that! Geeze. -_-

      As for not liking someone wanting to learn about you, I think that is a bit much. Unless someone is being incredibly nosy such as asking 5 questions in a row, then maybe. Otherwise, I enjoy someone who is genuinely interested in what I'm doing or feeling because most aren't. I take it as them being friendly and accepting you as a person. I like solitude since I'm not a people person but when I have someone's attention, I would prefer that they are interested enough to consider knowing about me at least.

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  • charli.m
    11 years ago

    Is it because you don't know what you're feeling? I never used to know what I was feeling, so being asked to have a conversation about it would be repulsive to me.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    But how are you feeling?

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  • changes123
    11 years ago

    It's not normal, or healthy... but it's common.

    I'm guessing you have trust issues because of something that happened in your childhood? Even if you can't consciously recognize what... something happened.

    I used to be the same way... until I moved on from my inhibitions. Life is short... don't waste it being angry.

    Live.

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    • Coolio665
      11 years ago

      Normal and common are SYNONYMS...

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      • changes123
        11 years ago

        Also, just because it's a synonym doesn't make the meanings the same.

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      • changes123
        11 years ago

        Synonyms are the opposite of antonyms.

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