Is it normal that i had a changing relationship with a guy entirely online?

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What happened was that we were in the same CCD class and we go to the same school.
We were friends (kind of) and we eventually got ahold of each other's emails.
We started chatting like, ALL THE TIME, about stupid stuff mostly.
Then, like 6 months ago, I told my friend that I was getting the "more-than-friends" feeling from him, since he obviously liked me.
This led to her forcing him to ask me out. I declined because I wasn't ready to be in a relationship. Online, and very very partially on the phone afterwards, we discussed what had happened, and I agreed that I liked him (big mistake).
This led to about 6 months of him complimenting me online. And whenever we would be on the phone with each other, and I would start to talk about our relationshp, and he would want to compliment me, he wouldn't be able to say it. Instead he'd say, "I can't say it, go online."
Sadness, patheticness and overall- guilt. He would always compliment me and stuff.
Yesterday, I realized that I never really liked him all that much. I did, before we exchanged emails- he was the perfect guy for me.
But I realized yesterday that ever since he admitted he liked me, all of my love for him was forced.
So yesterday, (on chat of course) I said, "Can we just be friends?"
And he said, yeah.
So now we've gone back to our stupid conversations, and I'm showing him who I really am, not the person I want him to keep liking. Not the person I'm being so he'll continue to love me.
And I want to try to talk to each other in public more, but I never see him, and when I do, other people are around and it's awkard.
I just don't know what to do.
Is it normal?

It's quite normal, has even happened to me/someone I know! 12
It's not that normal, but happens sometimes. 9
It's not normal AT ALL- stop being an alien! 3
It's so normal I know this situation like the back of my hand. 4
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  • alextsang08
    9 years ago

    Friendzoned... Ouch.

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  • ANDYTREK247
    11 years ago

    just go for it babe .

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal, but you guys should really try to meet up more...

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  • Artist
    12 years ago

    It's ok for you to think you liked him at first and then realized you didn't, no big deal. But if you know he likes you and wants to be more than friends, it's probably best, if I were you, to suggest you two don't talk at all. He's always going to think there's a chance, especially if you keep chatting with him. Honestly, I think there's too much text and chat nowadays. Pick up the phone or meet face to face and actually talk to each other. The world has become so computer and cell phone communication, that it leads to people feeling awkward when they actually get in front of real people. Perfect example of him saying, "I can't say it, go on chat"...??? I mean really? What's he going to do when he's with a female about to fool around...say, "I can't, let me run home and call you on the phone and play with myself"? There's many, many other guys and people out there for you to be close with, as a friend. You need a boyfriend to be yourself with..find a boyfriend and tell him, "Nothing personal but, it would be best if we just kind of did our own thing".

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  • chantezj18
    12 years ago

    similar situation on my part, but we've pulled through those moments, and now we're engaged! :)

    dont worry, if it doesnt work out between you and this guy, you'll find the right one...

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    simliar happening, happened to me, so i say.... BLAHHHHH >xP

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