Is it normal that i get upset over nothing and then become numb?

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So I'll get really upset over nothing. Things I know I shouldn't be upset about. Things that I don't want to be upset about.

However, I am incapable of not being upset. It's like a switch and once it's flipped on it's only possible to turn it off with time. Usually this takes between 10 minutes to 3 hours. It really upsets my boyfriend. I've tried to explain to him that I'll be fine (eventually).

See the thing is, if it gets really bad I start to feel numb. Then he'll start to think I'm okay because I'm not making a fuss anymore. But then I get so comfortably numb that I feel like I can't move, that I can't speak, and it's so unbearable. He'll try to question me what's wrong, and I simply cannot answer. No matter how much I want!

It's really hard to explain... So after this numb period I'll start to create crazy scenarios in my head ( just to feel anything really), like my boyfriend secretly hates me but he puts up with me because he pity's me. It's all stupid shit that I know isn't true, but until the mood budges these feelings will invade my head until I think I've gone insane.

I always come back to normal but it puts immense stress on my relationship.

So yeah, that's as much as I can explain (and this is the short version).

Edit: these moods can also be very random, but only when I'm feeling alone or am simply alone.

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    That's rough. I kind of know how you feel. Although it sounds like something only a therapist can really handle.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I'm a pretty happy individual, it's just gotten worse the past year (it's very up and down depending on my stress level). Thanks for the suggestion, I'm pretty afraid of therapy though.

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      • Short4Words
        9 years ago

        I read your reply below about why you're avoidant of therapy. I can say that it can help. But each individual is different. You don't sound like you are deeply disturbed by your issue but its limiting you. My next suggestion is that you just look into effective ways of dealing with stress. And do more things that make you peaceful. Maybe its volunteering or going on long walks. You tell me.

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  • Spankz
    9 years ago

    One word: therapy. You think it's going be a judgmental stuffed shirt furiously scribbling on a clip board, but it isn't. In fact, it's usually a very understand man or woman that has your mental health in your interest. They give you coping methods and extremely good advice. My mother's therapist is like her best friend. She can talk to her whenever. She is only a phone call away and will always have time. Seriously, don't be afraid of it. It's a good thing to do for yourself.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    9 years ago

    Please seek professional help before it gets more serious and you can't pull yourself back.

    Saying things like I'm a happy individual is an indication into something is wrong.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    I feel like this sometimes too about my girlfriend... But then she does something that reminds me she really does love me and everything's okay again! :D

    Also, (this has nothing to do with the first thing I said) don't underestimate the power of a hug. Ask him to just hold you and things will start to feel better.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I do ask him to hold me and he will. But when I'm feeling that way, like I said, it's hard for me to articulate my feelings. I feel like I'm bothering him by asking him to hold me and what not. I've tried to explain to him that when he notices me going down that road just to comfort me, but he explained it's hard for him to recognize when this happens. Once he does, it's usually too late to pull me out of the depths quickly.

      And I agree with you, hugs are like magic sometimes :)

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    Why are you afraid of therapy? Could it be ptsd?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I just know a lot of people in therapy and I don't really think it'll help. I guess people have mixed reviews. It's also expensive.

      I don't think it's PTSD, I haven't had many traumatic events that are still prevalent in my life, I think.

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