Is it normal that i get this heartbroken when an online friend blocks me?

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I know this probably has been asked several times, but I was just blocked online by a friend. A friend of almost 4 years. I've been talking with him for the entire time we've been friends. (No, not nonstop.)

Today, though, we got in an argument, and later, I caught that he doesn't want to be friends with me any more. THe heartbreak was so massive, I hit myself in the head AND in the eye, to give me pain, not because I'm a masochist; no I'm not one of those, but it was to drown out the emotional pain.

I also contemplated suicide. Because I lost a friend. But I obviously didn't kill myself, thank God. THOSE feelings dropped out...

So... Is it normal to be this devastated by this kind of thing?

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    Your feelings are valid. But the fact that you contemplated suicide over this is what concerns me.

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    • Keno9988
      9 years ago

      I consider my self-abuse my real "attempt" to suicide.

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  • cupcake_wants
    9 years ago

    I WISH someone unfriending me was the biggest problem i had in life

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  • KURO&SHIRO
    9 years ago

    Look, there are times in a person's life where they might have to stop being someone's friend, and that is normal. Just hear me out, OK? You shouldn't try to commit suicide just because you lost ONE friend. Be thankful that it wasn't all of your friends. I don't mean to make you feel bad and all, but thinking about suicide because you got blocked online by a friend is kind of selfish.

    Think about how your family or your other friends who are STILL your friends and family would feel, OK? Think about what would happen if you did commit suicide and how you would feel if you were in their shoes.

    Also, know that friends will have occasional arguments. Now, even if one of you says you don't want to be friends anymore, they might regret that decision and ask for your forgiveness. Also, do you mean the word "caught" as in he didn't say aloud to you that he didn't want to be your friend again and that you just thought that? If that is the case, then maybe you could just be overthinking. Since I can't read minds, and I don't know who the hell you are talking about, the best thing to do is ask him yourself.

    P.S. If you don't have any other friends or family, know that there might be someone who does want to be your friend or does care about you that you don't know of. I am glad that you didn't commit suicide because if you were my friend, I would honestly be upset, mad, and kind of disappointed that you did that. Again, no offense, and I apologize beforehand if you did get offended. That was not my intention of this comment.

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    • Keno9988
      9 years ago

      Yeah, I've noticed about myself that I'm kinda selfish and filled with gluttony a lot. I think it's part of my personality, so I don't try to mess with it.

      I always antagonize my family, and since I was spoiled as a kid/teen, I usually yelled at them and try to use force to get them to do anything I wanted them to. My friend in question is one of two friends that I WANT to be friends with.

      I know that friends will have occasional arguments. But we've been arguing for a while now. And by "caught," I mean that I saw some typings by him that explicitly stated that he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore. I'd rather keep him anonymous.

      There IS someone that wants to be my friend, but I dismiss him because he's not the friend I'm trying to mend up things with. He's one of two friends that I CARE about.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    It happens to the best of us.
    Recently I was blocked by a female friend online who I enjoyed speaking to (I'm male) and it hurt more because over all this time I realized that I had grown attracted to her.
    Maybe it hurts you more because you like him?

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    • Keno9988
      9 years ago

      I'm a male, and we've been talking for four years, like I said.

      I've told him that losing our friendly bond is a nightmare in my eyes, so I cherish this friendship, even though this isn't our first fight.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    That must have been some argument.

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  • xtreemgamer129
    9 years ago

    I'm constantly having to cheer up my online buff because he's insecure and depressed, and I'm worried if I let him out of my sight for more than a few hours he'll commit suicide while I'm away and I won't be able to stop him.

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