Is it normal that i get obsessed with strong female elders in a mother way????

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So I get obsessed with older females that are usually attractive smart classy confident and mother like in some way.its not a sexual thing at all I just get obsessed with them and imagine what it would be like being there daughter and things like that in my head about them.I have a good relationship with my mother so this confuses me!I've never had a good relashionship with my dad he doesn't care about me!my other parent figure would be my grandma but she's dead now.the first time these obsessions started I was maybe 7?it was a character Nicole Kidman played in the movie the golden compas.it was around that time that my grandma was sick with cancer my mother knew but I didnt.since then I always attach myself to an older female.My teacher was one of the biggest ones I've ever had she helped me threw so many things I can't begin to name them all and its making me sad because I left school .at the moment I don't have anyone that I've attached myself to and I'm looking for help.there always like idols to me but I don't know if its normal!!!Is this a normal thing to be drawn towards women I would like to be like and to be my mother or do I have some kind of problem!please comment!!

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If you are an adult, you should be moving away from this behavior and centering more on finding a friend and lover, rather than a parental figure.
    You shouldn't need a parental figure as an adult.

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    • Mrsmc15
      8 years ago

      Thanks for commenting.I'm just turned 18 this week and I feel like I could grow out of it but I don't know!!!I really hope I do

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  • Als97
    7 years ago

    Literally, I have the same issue. I'm guessing it's normal since I'm not the only one. But believe me, I totally understand.

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  • ShadoClone
    8 years ago

    Make sure you ask that person to be your mentor. I personally think that since you're fantasizing about other people's lives you're crazy bored with your own life.

    Go read a few books, learn something, and see if you can bounce that knowledge with the mother figures in your head.

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  • sleepyeyes
    8 years ago

    I think it's normal to desire a mentor type relationship - especially being so young. It's good that you are examining your feelings and thoughts. Be gentle with yourself.

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