Is it normal that i get mad when husband watches bisexual porn?

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My husband now says he is bisexual (he never said that before we got married) and when he watches porn, the only "niche" that can make him "finish" is guy-guy-girl action. He doesn't think there is anything wrong with seeing a guy suck another guy, but personally, I just don't want to be married to someone who feels that way. I want a divorce based on this; am I justified?

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ThatScarletteGirl

7 years ago

If he's acting like this all the time just ignore him. Maybe he'll come back to the right track but then if he does these things again just leave him and find another good guy.

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Ellenna

7 years ago

If I were you I'd be cutting my losses and getting out of this marriage: I really can't see any future with him as you describe him and he sounds very selfish and disrespectful

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  7 years ago
  
  Yes, that sounds like the best idea!
  
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Max2016

7 years ago

I read your description and your comments (I might have missed some) and looks like the marriage is already over. You are here to seek validation. And from what it looks like, leaving him is the right choice, but not because he is bisexual but because he sounds like a selfish, self-centered prick who wants to cheat or is already cheating on you. That's not how marriage works. So I think leaving him for good is the right choice too.
Good luck!

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choudhuryup

7 years ago

Don't be such an ass. He's your husband and he loves you. If he's bisexual you should respect that; out of all the girls AND guys he could've gotten with he's picked you to MARRY. And besides, loads of straight men and women watch 3P. (by the way 3P isn't bisexual porn its multiple partner porn) Also, there could be a chance he's polyamourous, which means he loves you with all his heart but can also love other people just as much as he loves you without liking you any less. I think this is really judgemental, and come on, it'd be a waste of all that wedding money spent XD

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- sandnigga
  
  7 years ago
  
  nice excuses, but if hes cheating on her, then theres no point
  
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- Ignored
  
  7 years ago
  
  It's too late. I'm never going back to him. He called me crazy and a whore and told me that I was the reason he was seeking out new "physical venues." I won't be talked down to like that by someone who DIDN'T EVEN PAY for the wedding, or the luxury hotel suite, or my wedding gown, or even rings (HE RETURNED THEM AND I NEVER EVEN HAD A WEDDING RING!). Oh, but he did pay $100- of his grandparents' money to rent his tux (he always points out).
  
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  - SirChazwick
    
    7 years ago
    
    Your husband looks kind of like a gay howard hughes after he crashed one of his airplanes.
    
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    - sandnigga
      
      7 years ago
      
      that just sounds funny lol
      
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    haha your profile XD
    
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    this guy lol
    
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DolphinAngel

7 years ago

And this, kids, is why you don't marry. Ever.

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mrbrownfinger

7 years ago

Gay as fuck! Divorce him before he gives you aids

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mysistersshadow

7 years ago

Get out its a trap.

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sandnigga

7 years ago

Depends. How much do you love him? Are you willing to break up a marriage based off something like that?

I can see if he cheated. I can see if he was a killer lol

But just for being bisexual?

Ultimately its your choice. But Marriage is supposed to be through "thick and thin".

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- IMissMary
  
  7 years ago
  
  Yeah right
  
  If you lived me.....
  
  What a load of shit! How manipulative.
  
  Guess what I love me more!!
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    "If you lived me?"
    
    what? what are you saying?
    
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    - IMissMary
      
      7 years ago
      
      I was trying to type what you said.
      
      "If you loved me...."
      
      referring to "Depends. How much do you love him?"
      
      Nevermind...:-(
      
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      - sandnigga
        
        7 years ago
        
        lol oh ok
        
        i thought you were. but i didnt understand if you were going for a joke or what
        
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- Ignored
  
  7 years ago
  
  Well, he also opened up a lot of accounts at dating websites where he says his relationship status is "complicated" or "single," and that he is interested in "men and women." So, this isn't the only thing that he has done to make me question our vows!
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    Sounds like he feels restricted by your marriage and wants to experiement with guys and girls
    
    Tisk tisk. Hes supposed to be loyal to you though. What does he think a marriage is?
    
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    - Ignored
      
      7 years ago
      
      We've only been married for less than a year. It's hard to believe he is feeling the seven year itch already. Whenever we "break up," he gets over me rather quickly ---- opening up new dating site accounts and contacting other women (and probably men) within hours of the break up. He never used to password protect his phone or Nook, but now he does. He came at me violently when I picked up his phone and tried to snoop.
      
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      - Curious-trans
        
        7 years ago
        
        Well i understand his veiw on that i personally cant stand people messing with my stuff esspecially my phone (its pricy) and my books drives me nutters but in his case its obviously cus hes hiding stuff
        
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      - sandnigga
        
        7 years ago
        
        Oh well thats good news then. At least you werent married to him for like 50 years lol
        
        I dont know about this 7 year myth thing. Cause if I get married I plan on staying married forever :)
        
        Yup. He's obvious. Obvious he is. Yoda I am
        
        XD haha
        
        All I can say is good luck. Unless you try to help him stop being so addicted to sexual experimentation, then I doubt he'll stop himself
        If you love him, try to help him stop.
        
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        7 years ago
        
        I'm not against experimentation; we've done a lot of things together that I know we wouldn't have done with anyone else. It's just this one issue I have a problem with. I can't compete with a dick if that is what he wants and that is what turns him on. I wish I had known before I married him, that's all.
        
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    wowwwwwwwww XD haha yea, you got trouble on your hands
    
    I just dont know anymore lol
    
    Well, expect for him to possibly cheat on you. Sex is on his mind, and he's gotta learn to control himself.
    
    Have you held back on sex? I mean I know though that its still not a excuse to cheat
    
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    - Ignored
      
      7 years ago
      
      I have given him everything he wants until I am worn out! He begged me to peg him and I even did that, although I was disgusted the whole time. He insists that I got off on it too, even though I didn't. He acted like such a little girl the whole time, I couldn't believe it was the same man I married. He insists that he just likes to get his "prostate massaged." Is that a viable reason or just a flat-out excuse?!
      
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      - sandnigga
        
        7 years ago
        
        Hmmmm, XD haha this niggas getting kinky lol
        
        Yup, its a sexual experimentation drive for sure
        
        Yea theres guys out there who are into dickgirls but claim they're "straight" lol
        
        his "prostate massaged" XD hahahaha
        who just comes up with this shit? id be telling him, "dude thats not a good enough excuse"
        you dont see guys going in for prostate massages lol
        
        its obviously a sexual reason
        
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        Curious-trans
        
        7 years ago
        
        Haha for prostate rubs last thing you want is shaft litterly a finger feels better for prostate pleasure than a shaft
        
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      - Curious-trans
        
        7 years ago
        
        If he wants his prostate rubbed take him up on that i know a great toy for that and its wide as fuck to. If hes really wanting it hell take it like a bitch in heat if not well..
        
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      - matthewkoehler
        
        7 years ago
        
        I would say this is about more than just him enjoying anal. Generally guys who are into being pegged are also interested in being submissive in other ways. Maybe you could try being more assertive and see if you get a positive reaction from him.
        
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      - Philia
        
        7 years ago
        
        It's very, very important to have a mutual understanding of what happens during sex!
        
        Sex is a land of compromise and orgasms, and should never be stressful or negative in any way. If you don't like pegging your mate, but he insists on anal pleasure, tell him that you don't mind him doing it to himself during sex (if you don't mind.) Maybe give him head while he dildos himself.
        
        Make sure he understands it's not judging him, it's about YOU and how YOU don't enjoy that the way he does. If he can't accept that, then maybe you should divorce him :p
        
        He would probably be delighted by any kind of acceptance to his newfound fetish, though. Give him an inch, and don't let him take a mile!
        
        Maybe a few inches if you're feeling kinky?
        
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Okimihasubee

7 years ago

No i asked her once then she did it quite often

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Okimihasubee

7 years ago

Its normal. Not like its a big deal tho. If you really love him you'll get back together. I married my wife and right after she cheated on me. I almost called it off but it turned me on. She thought i didnt know and lied to me. I started watching a lot of porn and our sex life suffered. I remembered what her pussy tasted like right after she cheated and thought about it constantly. It fucked me up. Now we are not together. She thought i didn't love her because i wanted dick. But that wasnt it. I worshipped her and loved her with everything i had. Supported her in what made her horny and turned her on so much to the point she beccame insecure about me and my love. Did not think i was faithful when i always was. Even when she cheated with black mens cocks cumming inside of her i would bow to her. Let her play with my prostate and eat her pussy. In the end we divorced because i wouldnt do drugs. Its hard. I still think about her when i masterbate. It hurts to know shes out there fucking and sucking in the most humbling way and i get off to it... God i need to get OFF of this subject

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  7 years ago
  
  You "let her" play with your prostate or "made her?" And, what kind of person would divorce you because you WOULDN'T do drugs? It's usually the opposite, where one person becomes so into drugs that they want that more than the relationship.
  
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  - Okimihasubee
    
    7 years ago
    
    Also i divorced her. I couldnt take the stealing and lies
    
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    - Ignored
      
      7 years ago
      
      Sorry to hear that. Divorce is always painful. How long have you two been divorced? What was she stealing?
      
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      - Okimihasubee
        
        7 years ago
        
        We have been divorced a year. She stole everything she could. Cds guns money. She stole so much i can't even make a list. It wasn't her tho it was the drugs.drugs break homes and ruin lives
        
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    - Ignored
      
      7 years ago
      
      Good for you! Thieves and liars are the worst, in my opinion. When my husband did things behind my back and then didn't have the balls to tell me the truth, I knew he was worthless and cowardly.
      
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  How does one "fuck and suck" in a humble manner?
  
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  - Okimihasubee
    
    7 years ago
    
    She does it for drugs. Not out of love. Its very humbling for her and degrading. She doesnt like it but gets hogh so much
    
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      7 years ago
      
      Hogh?
      
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        7 years ago
        
        High*
        
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kla631

7 years ago

It sounds like you married him, but he did not marry you. I do not know your age bracket. He sounds immature, how long have you guys been going out before marriage?

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  7 years ago
  
  We dated off and on for about 2 or 3 years before getting married in February of this year. He is very immature, and he makes me get crazy in a way I've never felt before.
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    like you wanna strangle the fk out of him XD haha
    
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BENDOVR

7 years ago

NObody falls out of love being married less than one year.

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  7 years ago
  
  Then, what? We were never in love?
  
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sandnigga

7 years ago

It really is a shame he doesnt seem to value your relationship as much as you.

You obviously put more care into it than he does.

He just wants to have sexual fun with other people. Which you obviously cant do like that

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  7 years ago
  
  I know that deep down, he used to love me, but he doesn't anymore. I don't know what happened to make him stop loving me, and I'm sure he would come up with lots of legitimate sounding reasons (as he always does). No matter what I catch him doing, he manages to find an obscure way to deflect the blame when I confront him about it. Since marriage is supposed to be based on trust, and neither of us trusts the other, I have already come to the sad conclusion that we are better off without one another.
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    Like someone else said, he's being too selfish in his sexual fantasies
    
    Yea, well like I said, at least you werent in the relationship that long
    
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  - SirChazwick
    
    7 years ago
    
    You have a lot of thinking to do it sounds like. Divorce is expensive for whoever is the main breadwinner in the relationship.
    
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