Is it normal that i get depressed being around my brother

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Recently I finished college and am back living with my parents and brother, when i was at college for the first time i really felt like myself people liked me for me and i was so happy but now that I've finished and I'm back home I'm depressed again. i feel like my parents have always favoured my older brother, he is a successful model with a hot gf and is always bragging, he gets attention from everyone every where we go this makes me feel so worthless nobody ever pays me any attention when were together because I'm just average looking this makes me feel really uncomfortable and shy around him which obviously makes people want to ignore me even more, the other day at my own birthday party my mom told me to hand out napkins while everyone took turns taking a picture with him i was thinking its my birthday they should at least takes pictures with both of us, they just make it so obvious that they value him more, i know its silly but things like that hurt me so much i just want to be treated as equals, he is also extremely dominating, over confidant and arrogant because of the way people have boosted his ego over time (he wasn't always like this) ive been perscibed anti depressants nobody knows or understands why I'm taking them but i know its because of my uncontrollable jealousy towards him because i only feel depressed now that I'm around him, I'm not sleeping well anymore now that I'm back home i wake up having anxiety attacks I used to be able to bottle my feelings up but its really messing me up now :( i defiantly don't hate him and i do want him to be successful (believe it or not) i just don't want the family to ignore me even more it just makes me so depressed feeling unappreiated the only time I'm happy is when I'm with my friends because i know I'm important to them, I've lived with him for my whole life i want to just denounce my whole family and stay away from them because of him for my own health but they would never understand why I'm doing this to them and it would seem unfair because they do love me me, what can i do??? i feel I'm going to go explode i just can't take this bs anymore

I'm 23 and he's 25 btw

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  • Luddeeklof
    7 years ago

    Listend, you have no obligations towards your parents. Its the opposite, they had the obligation to keep you alive, which in no way buys your trust or respect. That would be parent slavery. If you feel obligated to take their feelings into account because "they love you", instead of "you love them", it really is an uneven, exploitive playing field. They basically demand to get the benefits one gets from being loved, but get it through telling you that they love you instead of making you love them. They dont get the benefits if you dont feel that way. Why should you? You did not choose your family, you just happened to get born there. Go live your life where you can grow freely, and choose to have people around you that you love!!

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  • i-am-froot?
    7 years ago

    You could try and talk to your family about your feelings. Especially your parents, who may not realize that they are mistreating you.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Why not move out?

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