Is it normal that i get bored of friends very easily? or are these trust issues

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I have been a victim of loneliness, I know what it's like to feel lonely and unwanted. However, when I am blessed with friends, who care for me and invite me to places and hang out with me, like I am now... I pull away after a while. After a while, it's exhausting to talk to them. I'm mentally filled up and I can't take in another word of nonsense they utter, be it to me or to somebody else or among themselves. I hate that I do this and I don't want to hurt feelings obviously, but that's just how it is. I maintain a barrier. No one should cross it lest they hurt me. I am afraid I might get hurt. So I don't open up. Never fully.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Maybe you are an introvert who's been hurt in life too many times? Ever since I broke up with my ex I have not wanted very much to be around or trust people.

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    • Zeikfried
      5 years ago

      Not necessarily an introvert but more like someone who appreciates privacy. I seem to do this as well. Like in the first few times, friends are all good and fun. It gets tiring after a while and you just want to watch your favorite tv series or whatever without being pestered every time about going out with them or whatever. Then they think that you don't like them and the friendship goes to hell and you feel bad about it and the fact that you don't have friends and it gets lonely and the same thing repeats over and over and over again. It's a vicious circle but one solution I found is to keep it at acquaintanceship. People tend to overdo that friends stuff

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  • myfreakinopinion
    5 years ago

    People are selfish, don't do a lot for them eitheir.

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  • Mehereok1
    5 years ago

    I have a post just like this. Tired of the same people and same conversations. For me, though, it's not to maintain a barrier or pull away..It's boredom and exhausting. You need to get out among different people than your immediate group, get some variety. That way, you not only get different people and conversation, you get to choose and not feel locked into your immediate group.

    Last night, I went to a chain place for dinner, somewhere I hadn't been to in about a year. met and talked to some nice people, staff, even complimented one staff on her very long (especially for the service business), jet-red, perfectly shaped nails. She ate up the compliment, and said she likes them to look good for the public when she works. Talked to a guy about his working in NYC, and a couple about fireworks, since they were in that business. All in all, it was a good time, with new people, and I wasn't gone all night, like with my other group.

    Get yourself out more and around new people. Find a meetup group, hobby, bowling..Anything new. Expand your circle.

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