Is it normal that i found out a huge secret about my bf but i'm not bothered?

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I accidentally found out that he was married once and he never told me. I was a bit shocked at first but after the initial shock which lasted about 5 minutes, I realized that I didn't even care. I've been with the guy for a year, you would think that would have come up at some point, at least in passing. I think most women would be upset that they didn't know, but I love him just as much as I ever did. So is it normal that finding out this huge secret hasn't really fazed me?

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Based on 58 votes (28 yes)
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  • ValidExcuse
    12 years ago

    Well he never told you because you didn't ask so he figured it didn't matter..........take it from a guy...normal.

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  • under1
    12 years ago

    Good on you for sticking by your fella. Maybe he didnt tell you because it was part of his past he wants to leave behind. Also, guys hate it when women ask to many questions or are ridiculously nosy so I think you did the right thing to shrug it off.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    You are rational not to freak out like most people would, but you might have gone to far the other way. At least ask him why his marriage broke down, it could be important. Don't come in as if he has done something wrong though, he probably has a very reasonable explanation. Too reasonable? You'll have to judge that for yourself.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Maybe he's not even divoreced!

    Make sure you don't trust him with your finances, if he's sooooooo honest!!!

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  • KatieLiz
    12 years ago

    Yeah... You should probably fond out why it ended. I wouldn't recommend asking him.

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    • MissClaire
      12 years ago

      I agree, there could be a reason he never 'bothered' to mention it to her.

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      • FluffieBunnie
        12 years ago

        I just wonder if he really got burned or something. I wouldn't ask him about it because if it is a painful memory why drudge up a past that doesn't even matter anymore? He's been divorced for years and never had any kids, so it's not like there is any serious baggage that could hold us back now.

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        • MissClaire
          12 years ago

          True, I didnt think of it that way. Maybe he is sick of talking about it too. If you guys love eachother, I think it's awesome and that should be all that matters :)

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  • PoooBah
    12 years ago

    he prolly doesnt want to remember

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  • hellostrangers
    12 years ago

    What else is he hiding from you? Stop and think about that before you decide it does not bother you. How can you go a year knowing someone and never mention something like that? He seems exceptionally dishonest/deceptive. Don't be a fool.

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  • FluffieBunnie
    12 years ago

    He's definitely divorced. I accidentally found out all of this when I saw a copy of the divorce record.

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    The only concern to me would be why they never mentioned it. There's maybe a question if honesty here. What else don't you know? Maybe it honestly never came up, but after a year with someone you would think they might have mentioned it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Are you naive ?

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  • ck38
    12 years ago

    I would be hearing alarm bells. I wonder why he never said?
    I would make sure he is divorced and not still married.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    haha i'm sure its fine but hide the shovel anyhow

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Smart individuals^

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