Is it normal that i feel the only reason someone is classed as "needy" is......

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Is because the other person doesn't care as much or isn't as invested. I feel if it were mutual feelings in a friendship or relationship then no one would be classed as needy because they both enjoy each others company equally! I instantly feel I know when someone doesn't value me as much as I do them if they call me needy ! Am I right or what!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    OMG would you stop being so needy.

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  • The sailor is dead
    7 years ago

    It is possible for two needy people to be in a relationship. This is what we refer to as a 'dysfunctional relationship'

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    • RoseIsabella
      7 years ago

      I don't think a relationship with two needy people would work, because I think a truly needy person would tire of and lose respect for someone who is equally as needy of him or her. I think there is an element of low self esteem, and lack of self respect that may very well cause the needy person to crave rejection and abandonment. There is a drama queen/king aspect to this sort of pathology.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Needy people tend to overwhelm others.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      How do u mean by this?

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        I mean that chronically needy people tend to suffocate those they attach and inflict themselves upon, thus overwhelming those other people and eventually driving them away.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          I understand what you're saying and I also read your above comment. I still am confused because what if for instance you're head over heels in love with someone and u want to spend a lot of time with that person, they're always on your mind so you have the urge to text them each day to talk to them. They might not feel the same so they class you as a 'needy' friend. So this is why I think that people that class another as needy, is because they simply don't care as much :/

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          • RoseIsabella
            7 years ago

            Hmm... Well, I suppose it could be a matter of opinion to some, but my question in that case would be why continue to relentlessly pursue someone when said person doesn't return the same high level of interest that the one in pursuit has? I don't see the point in chasing someone who doesn't appear to want to be caught. Desperation can be a costly matter in that it costs one's self respect and self esteem which aren't exactly things one can by back. I personally think that when a person is being overly needy it shows a lack of impulse control.

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