Is it normal that i feel sad over letting him go?

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I've been in a kind of relationship with someone for the past seven months. After two months of seeing each other, he told me he didn't want a relationship (due to his ex of four years cheating on him for a year) but wanted us two to continue as we are. I accepted this and backed off from him emotionally. I have told him on a few occasions that at some point, one of us will probably meet someone else who we want a relationship with, and we would have to split.
I met someone else who I have completely fallen for. I tried to let my kind of boyfriend down lightly a month ago and said I don't see the point of us continuing if there is no real feelings between us in which he flipped and said he's told me before that he isn't ready for a relationship. I said that's fine, because I have met someone else who I really want to be with so I don't think we should see each other anymore. Instantly, he was okay with it and said he was happy for me.
A few days later, he starts making a real effort talking to me which he never does. He starts asking questions like have I had sex with the new guy yet. He keeps asking if we can hang out. He said if he was ready for a relationship he would definitely be with me. He even went as far as saying that I am now 'torturing' him.
I really like the new man. I'd even say he's the one I want to spend my life with. We have an emotional, spiritual deep connection with each other. A huge spark. I don't love the person I have been with for the past seven months, and I know now I have to let him go and refuse to see him again to make it easier, but I feel so sad. I will miss him a lot. I get kind of teary thinking about how I will never see him again.
Is it normal to feel this way?

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  • Pastafarian
    9 years ago

    If he couldn't man up and get over his issues with his ex, then his loss! Too many guys playing the "I have trust issues card" to get out of comitment.

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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    Yeah, i could understand why you are sad. It sucks letting go of friends, but thats all it was, a friend with benefits who couldnt commit to you and used a lame excuse so that he didnt have to. Now he wants to commit? Nope, sorry to late. He seems like a real jerk anyways and somebody needed to teach him that lesson. Now the next girl he meets he will tell them some sob story about you and how he doesnt want a relationship. You are better off with this new guy and never speaking to the other one who has commitment issues. You will feel sad the first couple of weeks but after that you will feel even happier that you dont have to deal with that toxic relationship anymore and you are in a much better relationship.

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  • nakyanjabel
    9 years ago

    Gosh..that fella is trying to ruin ur new sweet rlshp.push that jerk out of of ur life

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