Is it normal that i feel responsible

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So I've always been a supporter of family romance. I've even supported younger women dating older guys. But now I don't think I can.

This weekend my dad came onto me. He cornered me and told me that he knew I wanted it and liked it. He groped me and more (it's too graphic and irrelevant). This went on for some time until he was satisfied.

He then told me he was sorry and that it was all my fault for living at home, walking around in yoga pants, leggings, sports bras etc. which I never considered to be an issue.

The thing is, intellectually i know I'm not responsible for his actions but I'm blaming myself because I should've been more modest.

I have no idea what to do now.

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  • charli.m
    7 years ago | pl

    Sexual assault is never the victims fault. You are not responsible for how others choose to act.

    Particularly a person like a parent who is meant to look out for your best interests and keep you safe.

    I'd report him if I were you, but I understand it's complicated. I hope you stay safe.

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  • privatepropertykeepout
    7 years ago

    Oh my, its totally wrong go to the police,its extremely disturbing and disgusting of your so called father,he needs to be severely punished for this vile act.

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  • .Yourmindisfuckedup.
    7 years ago

    Fucking asshole!!

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  • silkspector
    7 years ago

    Ring the police he raped you

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    • mrwright71311
      7 years ago

      But I feel so responsible for it. I hate to say it but I kinda asked for it. I just had no idea I was asking for it ... but now it makes sense. Otherwise, he's an amazing dad I'd hate to see him in prison.

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      • silkspector
        7 years ago

        I walk around in joggers and tight leggings short skirts but my dad has never touched me or even said anything inappropriate how can it be your fault.your his daughter he is supposed to look after you not abuse you

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      • Anonymous200
        7 years ago

        It is not your fault. Repeat that to yourself, over and over again. I've walked around my pajamas and sometimes without a bra in front of my dad, but it's never been an issue. He is your father; it doesn't matter if you walked around naked, a normal dad would never hurt you. Ever.
        You both need help, he has a mental disorder and now he's ruined your life as well. And sorry, but the fact is he needs to go to prison. If he's capable of abusing his own daughter, who knows what harm he could do to someone else?
        It is not your fault. Abusers blame their victims so that they'll stay silent, but believe me when I say it is one-hundred percent on him.

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  • Keepsake
    7 years ago

    You could move out.

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    • mrwright71311
      7 years ago

      Can't afford it. I'm waiting tables so it's not easy to get a place because a lot of my income is cash and I can't show what I'm really earning.

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      • Keepsake
        7 years ago

        If you have any friends you could stay with, I'm sure they'd help. Otherwise, there's not much you can do that doesn't involve legal action. I suggest locking your door and not being near him if you don't have any other options.

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