Iin? that i feel my boyfriend may be in love with a friend of ours.

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He was best friends with this girl that he knew for 6 months and all of our friends said he was head over heels for her, but now me & him have been dating for 2 months & he says how happy he's with me and how he didn't end up with anyone else & how he knows I'm the one for him & how he's never fallen for someone so fast. He tells me he loves me & I believe he does, you just know when you look in someone's eyes & I feel that I love him too, we've just been together in such a short time it seems so stupid but yet we've already been through so much. This girl that was his best friend is still in the picture, & lately I feel like he may still like her the way he used to. I don't want to believe it bc I don't want to lose him, I just can't, we've already gotten attached so quick it's unbelievable. No one understands but they say they can see we're in "love" & all his friends say he's whipped over me & is deffinately in love. I'm just scared & untop of it, I'm very insecure. This girl is very pretty & outgoing. He's always doing things for her, he uses her truck all the time, gives her some money here & there if she doesn't have any, helps her with anything & everything. I understand they have had a past relationship but what about me? The thing is, he's a different kind of guy, he's the one who cares about your feelings, wants to hear what you have to say, & can hold your hand, kiss you in public, & tell you he loves you while looking right into your eyes. I'm just scared of losing him & idk if I should really be worried....

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    You guys have only been dating for two months. That is such a short time. Way too short of a time for anyone to actually claim that they are in love with eachother, maybe infatuated, which is definitely what it sounds like.

    And he was "head over heels" with her after only 6 months of friendship? This guy sounds like even HE can't distinguish feelings of love and infatuation.

    Bottom line, this sounds very immature to me. There is no way that you two can be THIS serious after only two months, and there is no way he could accurately guess that he was head over heels for her after only six months.

    I'd be worried if I were you, anyway. Giving her money and receiving favors from her, and being all "omg ur the 1 bby" after only two months. I'm trying not to be critical, but come on, two months? This guy sounds like quite the polyamorous type...

    Please, for the love of God, don't screw him, have babies with him or pledge your life to him until you two have been together for much longer of a time. Don't let yourself be taken by pretty words. I am sure he is a nice guy and all, but dating someone for only two months and telling them "ur the 1 baby!" is a bad tell as is.

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  • blaster
    12 years ago

    I think the top ones way off the mark but you do always have to stay cautious so early in tho none the less. He more just sounds like a bit of a softy more than anything , I think he wants "the one" just as much as you do . Much to contrary belief some of us guys do you know and you can easily fall in 2 mths - 2 days even but only time can tell if it's got what it takes long term , it's the same for any new relationship.
    The other one , dunno , why didn't they get together before ?
    I mean you can click with someone but know inside it's not actually in relationship terms , I've had that with girls and some I'm sure from the outside it'd look like we were meant for each other but I wouldn't want to be with them or be attracted sexually . That's happened a few times.
    You should ask him , dig into it a bit , why didn't you ever get with her anyway , you seem to get along so well ? If there's a friend you can trust that knows him , ask him too - I'd just dig into it a bit first up , see if you can get him talkin about it and what's making him tick on it!
    Good luck anyway.

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  • emery2100
    11 years ago

    You have been through so much? How can you go through so much in two months? You are probably on high school and don't see much of each other as it is

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  • mx000e
    12 years ago

    For the last time, I DON'T CARE what you feel about "your boyfriend may be in love with a friend of yours." STOP BOTHERING ME.

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  • mx000e
    12 years ago

    I told you, I just don't care what you feel.

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  • mx000e
    12 years ago

    I don't care.

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  • prodige
    12 years ago

    Falling in love doesn't have a time line - it can happen in 2 months or more or even shorter. Talk to him about it. Ask him all the questions you want answers too.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    sounds like you're trying to convince yourself that he really doesn't want you.

    perhaps it's easier to convince yourself that you've lost him so that it won't hurt if he ever breaks up with you.

    something to consider. i mean isn't life hard enough without creating imaginary troubles?

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