Is it normal that i feel like i can't be bothered with being in a relationship?

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I'm 20 and a female by the way. I just feel like I have so much in my life that I want to accomplish that I don't think I could do with a boyfriend. Call me relationship phobic but each time I'm in a relationship I feel tied-down and like it's a chore to be in it. I'm not even sure about wanting kids either, I feel like that would be a brick in the road - maybe I'm too selfish. All I know is that I can't see myself with kids or a serious relationship until I'm at least 30.

Admittedly it might get lonely but I rather have independence and be free to do what I want than have an obligation to anyone. I want to make my life interesting, travel, study, have a nice career, be cultured. I want to be able to live life like it's an adventure everyday. If someone comes along than okay, I'm down for that but don't expect me to settle.

I don't want to have kids for the sake of having some and procreating or as a duty to being a woman. I don't want to settle for a husband that's "just okay" either or for the sake of company - that's what friends are for. That'd be too boring and a waste of a life (for me anyway).

I'm all for doing what makes one happy. I do not like the idea of having to live the "American dream" with 2.5 kids, a husband and a white picket fence to be happy.

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Based on 43 votes (39 yes)
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  • Frosties
    12 years ago

    You sound like you know what you want. Don't let society talk you out of it. You only get one life.

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  • JustDave
    12 years ago

    You sound like me but I'm a guy. There are times when I wonder if there is something wrong with me. I see life like a daily adventure and I seem to cover more ground alone.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I feel pretty much the same way, and I realized this when this guy I was dating for a little while in december was pretty much up my ass every minute of everyday. I couldn't handle that. And its really not a matter of being unfaithful. Its not like I'm the cheating type. I just needed a little room to breathe.

    I think, if anything, the relationship I'm looking for would be one where you don't have to be texting each other every second of everyday, and you don't have to go out everyday either. So I completely understand your whole independence thing. I think people need their space every once in a while. Just because two people are in a relationship doesn't mean they have to dedicate every minute of their time to their significant other. That could just be insecurities and neediness thats making people act that way. And with probably any relationship, a persons trustworthiness should come from the start. So you should be able to trust one another well enough where you don't have to see each other all the time, and wonder what they're doing all the time either. I guess that depends on how mature the people are. Probably with two 16 yr olds it would be different.

    I'm with Frosties though. If you know what you want, just stick to that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Just be yourself.

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