Is it normal that i feel jealous when my father says a woman is attractive?

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I felt like that ever since I was in my tweens.IIN?

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  • candybee
    10 years ago | pl

    It doesn't mean you are sexually attracted to your dad a la Electra complex which others have implied. When parents talk about the looks of others it can make their kids feel uneasy. If your dad (or mom) thinks a girl is beautiful, you might measure yourself up to her and feel like you are not beautiful. You might subconsciously think that your dad would rather have her as a daughter. This is all irrational of course, but I can see how you could think this. It's just a result of living in a shallow society.

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    • GinnyWeasley
      10 years ago

      I agree. I used to be very jealous of my mom´s secretary because my mom wouldnt stop saying how pretty she is

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  • thesmokingun
    10 years ago

    I hated it when my dad boasted about women who flirted with him, it's awkward. My mom would put him in a grave if she heard

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      I can't blame you one bit there! His gloating is disrespectful of both you and your mother.

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      • thesmokingun
        10 years ago

        Yea I'd nod but secretly wanted to smack his face. Instead I'd change the topic and ask for money (coolers & 2 pack of smokes, lol)

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago

    cute

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  • carinadvicer
    10 years ago

    As a 54 year old lady I would say that it's probably that he's feeling old and a little 'past it' His boasting is must likely a sign of insecurity but its not really appropriate especially when he's married to your Mum.

    Try to be patient with him he could be feeling jealous that you are a young free and single (I don't know how old you are)

    Say something like I bet mum still fancies you too! Boost him up; but in a different way; find his other strengths and don't feed into this fantasy.......Which is what this is.
    Do you fear he might stray?? You need to tell him gently if you do.

    Hope that helps Meanwhile try not to worry lots of older men feel this way........Its kind of good that he tells you: I think he's trying; rather clumsily to open up to you.

    Chrissie

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    • ♡Primadonna♡
      10 years ago

      He doesn't boast, he just sometimes comments on women he sees on TV.And he isn't married to my mom and he never was.He is married to another woman and I WISH he strayed.I just feel bad if he says that a woman is attractive and I immediately start comparing myself to her.I have the same feelings towards any other man looking at someone else though.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Does your father ever say that you or your mother are attractive?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    It depends.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I do not think that is normal but it is not not normal either.

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  • ♡Primadonna♡
    10 years ago

    OMG, I'm not attracted to my dad to anyone who thought that.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Not normal IMO.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    No it is not normal. I forget the name of this. Being attracted to your father is not normal and you should not want to hinder his happiness because your own sick infatuation.

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