Is it normal that i feel guilty about having sexual urges?

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Okay, so whenever I masturbate, I feel guilty about it afterwards, like I did something wrong. Also, I feel horribly guilty whenever I look at porn, so guilty that I feel the need to turn away from the more explicit stuff. In general, having any sort of sexual urge makes me feel guilty. I know I'm not harming anyone and that it's perfectly normal, but I still feel really bad about it!

It's not like I'm some Christian fundamentalist, either. I'm an agnostic. I'm very liberal. My parents are very liberal. Nobody has ever told me that sex is bad. However, I just sort of feel inherently guilty about it, like it's something I shouldn't be doing. In general, I believe that it's perfectly okay for other people to have as much sex as they want and masturbate as much as they want, but I believe that it's amoral for ME to do those things. In fact, that's how I feel about drinking and drugs, too - okay for others, bad for me.

I guess in general, I hold myself to much higher moral standards than I do everybody else for no apparent reason. As I said, it has nothing to do with my upbringing, I've just always had a strong urge to be as clean and morally sound as possible, even though I don't believe in heaven. Part of it has to do with my fear of getting in trouble, even though I've never gotten in trouble for anything in my life. Is any of this normal?

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  • Society_is_Strange
    9 years ago

    Don't give into the pressures o a sexually repressed society! Masturbation is healthy and feels good! Do it every day and stop giving a fuck, you will be happier for it.

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  • SpencerDiLaurenta
    9 years ago

    Society has made us believe that masturbation is evil when it feels fucking amazing.
    You need to embrace your sexuality as as human being.
    I used to think the same way. I was raised with Christians, and our church said women shouldn't masturbate cause it was a sin.
    Now am an atheist,
    Because I realized I am a dirty pervert. ;)
    Become comfortable with yourself, understand that everybody does it, and enjoy yourself!
    Let the pervert out!
    Good luck

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  • flyingnostalgia
    9 years ago

    maybe cus its a sin?

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  • stickhard
    9 years ago

    I don't physically to masturbate and more, I can just think about something I consider sexual and my juices spring forth as I desire them to.

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  • RainbowDischarge
    9 years ago

    Are men able to masturbate successfully without the aid of porn?

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    • Arm0se
      9 years ago

      I used to, spoiled by internet porn.

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      • RainbowDischarge
        9 years ago

        What happens when you attempt without watching porn?

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    If your ashamed of doing something then don't do it at all. Easy as that.

    I also don't like to watch porn for many reasons and am also agnostic.
    Its unnatural, it clouds my thoughts, drains me of energy, and most of all its highly addictive, which was leading me in an obvious destructive path. Theres a very good reason why some religions don't want this and consider it as a sin.
    Don't want to watch porn but need sexual release? Find someone special than.

    This is just me. Some people are ok with porn, some people are not. Were all different here. Do what works for you.

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    • stickhard
      9 years ago

      You can't depend on religion to monitor your sexual desires. They have and agenda against any sex except to have baby. This only holds true for the masses not the clergy. I was raised in a religious household, although it doesn't make me an expert on the subject, I do have some insight into the matter. The worst fornicator I know of are the clergy and I don't care which religious sect they are in. They are all the same. They have a variety of sexual perverseness they deviate to sex with wives (not their own), each other, animals and children usually under the age of 12. They all do it and you usually don't hear about it because it is kept from you for the good of the religion. if you think you and your children are safe in church, Think again. I have actually been witness to all kind of dirty little acts perpetrated by so called religious people. The next time you go to church, just try to make eye contact with any of them they will look away from you or look down to their feet and don't try to ask them about it they will try to find an excuse to get away from you as quickly as possible.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    You have sexual desires? You should kill youself.

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    • 53739
      8 years ago

      That is a permanent solution to temporary insanity.

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  • sandraasiilva
    9 years ago

    It's normal and very common. I used to feel the same :b Don't worry, it will disappear with time, eventually.

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  • johnho
    9 years ago

    Anyone I believe would rather have you masturbate yourself than commit a sex crime?

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  • DaDoc
    9 years ago

    It's completely normal and it will never change(as far as I can tell). The guilt won't be as strong, but it'll always be there. I've been doing deviant things for quite some time(I'm 31yo) but I still feel some guilt about them. Not as much as before, but it's still there.

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