Is it normal that i feel bad because of my brother?

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Hello,
So my story goes like this. I am 20 years old, and my brother is 30 years old. When I was at age 9 our mother passed away from cancer..
One year later our dad left :/ I still have no idea why...I was left with my big brother ( he was 19 when our dad left)
He hold my hand :" don't worry sis, I am here for you"
Now I am 20 and I still live with him. I don't have a boyfriend and he have a girlfriend..
I asked him once will you ever get married. He said maybe, but "your my first priority"
Now I feel bad because he will not move on with his life and build a family. He will always guard me.. I feel bad for making him loose his future family and life.
What should I do?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Well you are an adult now. You dont really need him to parent you any more. What if you gave him your permission or something?

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    • TheEvilQueen
      9 years ago

      Thank you very much for the help

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Tell him how much you love and appreciate him, and also say that you are fine. He probably still sees you as his helpless little sister and maybe he needs his eyes opened!

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        • TheEvilQueen
          9 years ago

          You are such a good person! Thank you so much for this great tip!

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  • ChaoticBunny
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry for the loss of your parents. Your brother sounds like a great and caring person and your lucky to have had him look out for you. Your an adult now, so you are responsible for what you'd like to do in the future. You'll always be his little sister no matter what.

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    • TheEvilQueen
      9 years ago

      Thank you so much for answering me :)

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      • ChaoticBunny
        9 years ago

        My pleasure :)

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  • My02cents
    9 years ago

    You are both very good people (i deduct it from your replies and his behaviour)

    But believe me, it does`nt matter where you will be staying - in his eyes you will always be his lil sister and he will always watch out for you.

    I also agree 100% with "College"

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    • TheEvilQueen
      9 years ago

      Thank you for this awesome reply sorry for the long time reply

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  • college
    9 years ago

    Tell him you'd love to be an aunt and have a sister in law. Also, continue moving forward with your own life so he can see that you're fine and don't need him to be there for you 24/7. Lastly, your brother is amazing for what he's done, so be sure to always show your appreciation.

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    • TheEvilQueen
      9 years ago

      God bless him.. I love him so much

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You are his family, his first family, so I do find that respectable. That said, you will have to find ways to support yourself, or at the very least pull your weight around to bring in money, he can't be expected to carry you all the way through life even if he is willing to.

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    • TheEvilQueen
      9 years ago

      I know :( and I feel bad for holding him back :(

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  • Tobiasbeecher
    9 years ago

    You should try cuddling with your brother and playing romantic music. Maybe candle light and a bubble bath?.

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    • TheEvilQueen
      9 years ago

      Huh??

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