Is it normal that i feel attracted to my bf's best friend?

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Okay so I've been dating this guy for a little over a year and I love him to death. We have this friend who we always hang out with. Me and my boyfriend both know that this friend likes me, because he asked me out right before my boyfriend did and nothing has changed, he still flirts with me (subconsciously I think). Anyway, recently I started to notice that he's actually pretty attractive in a way and that he's such a good friend. And then I realize I wouldn't mind dating him. I have no intention of breaking up with my boyfriend, in fact we're planning on getting married. But my boyfriend is really reckless sometimes and we both think that he's going to die before me so is it normal for me to think about what if that happened? And for me to think that if It did, that I'd definitely try to date his best friend? Is it wrong to have a so called "backup"?

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Don´t rush into marriage.
    Being attracted to someone else is entirely normal.
    To have "What if" thoughts is also normal, your life wont end if your boyfriend disappears so naturally you have some ideas of what a future without him would look like.

    Now, as your BF´s best friend he seems like a jerk for flirting with you when you are with his best friend. That says one or two things about his loyalty
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  • LuxM4G
    8 years ago

    You might wanna get your feelings and relation straight before committing yourself to marriage. It's okay to feel sexually attracted to someone other than your bf even if it is his best friend, you always will be. If your felling emotionally tough, that's something you should sort out. It's definitely not cool for him.

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    The fact that you're almost planning your boyfriend's death is kinda sick. :/

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    I don't quite understand "we both think that he's going to die before me" I don't know where this foreshadowing came from . I think it's normal if you think someone is attractive , it would be silly to think we are attracted only to one person on this earth . I also don't know why you would be thinking about what the future holds with his friend if he dies? I find this odd to even consider . I don't think any of this Is appropriate behaviour , one last thing . . how does he "subconsciously flirt" with you? how does this work and how would you know ?

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    "we both think that he's going to die before me" What the fuck? Context needed.

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      Sounds like a plan is in the works......

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