Is it normal that i feel as if i cannot love a person?

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Is it normal that I feel as if I cannot love a person but instead just love them for the way they treat me?

In my first relationship, I think I settled because he treated me right, he loved me perhaps too much. I craved his attention and stayed with him for a very long time. Over time, I think I did actually fall in love with him, or maybe he grew to be a part of me. I am not sure. But then I realised that he didn't fulfilled me intellectually, and his love just wasn't enough any more. So I left him.

My second relationship, although much shorter, was pretty much the same. I loved the attention he was giving me and the way he treated me. He however did fulfil me intellectually, however, there was no physical chemistry. He was smart enough to realise this, and called it off.

So, what I am wondering is, am I just not able to love? Or am I normal?

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Based on 27 votes (15 yes)
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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    Maybe you just haven't met the right person yet?

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  • olshy
    9 years ago

    There's such a thing as Aromanticism. You may be an Aromantic, it's a very real and very valid thing. Google it and read some more about it! There's nothing wrong with you, it's very normal. And you shouldn't necessarily base your normality on whether you've "found the right person yet" or not, (:

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    Do you have any friends? It seems as you were with the guys cause of the attention they gave you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Actually, no :(
      I don't have many close friends.

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