Is it normal that i enjoy anonymous same sex encounters?

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First let me say I identify as a straight woman, and I've never had a one night stand (booty calls with old boyfriends but no one nights). I tried same gender, casual sex, for the first time about three weeks ago with a couple of friends. It went very well. The past couple of weekends I have continued to enjoy it with one or both of them. This past Saturday night I was picked up by a lesbian couple and brought them home. I didn't want to know their names, where they live, or anything else about them. The totally anonymous aspect was super exciting. I would never do this with a guy, but women feel safer. Is this normal or am I going too far?

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Based on 45 votes (32 yes)
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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    as log as you are both having fun and not hurting each other then i don't see the problem.

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  • Paigiepoo
    7 years ago

    Normal. If the situation is right, women are very cool. Communal

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  • 19joyce95
    7 years ago

    I sooo love hooking up with other girls, no matter if i know there name or not. fun is all that matters. enjoy!

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    • Hikenaked
      7 years ago

      So with that said, what do you think of guys hooking up to swap BJs

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    • kirsten101
      7 years ago

      Thanks for the feedback. Fun is the goal, and in the moment it has 100% of my focus. It's the next day when I reflect back. I mean a month ago I had only had hetero, one-on-one sex. Now just a few weeks later I've had some fairly adventurous group, same gender, sex. I begin to worry that I'm becoming some sort of degenerate.
      I can't talk to my friends I've been with, I know what their answer will be. My other friends might freak out, so... here I am

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      • 19joyce95
        7 years ago

        Ive never been in your situation because ive always been a fun girl, very open and easy with both sexes... but how could you worry of becoming degenerate? youre just enjoying sex to fullest extent which should be 100% normal. and if your friends dont understand... you need new friends :)

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  • theblackjess
    7 years ago

    Totally normal. Can I meet up with you? lol

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  • AB1234
    7 years ago

    I'm pretty confident you didn't mean this to be funny, but I had a good laugh at your line about your first experience, "It went very well." Thanks. But seriously, since you're getting together with other legal adults who seem to be enjoying the encounters, too, I don't see any problem. I've never been with another girl, but a lot of my girlfriends have tried it at least once. It seems to be a right of passage for lots of college students away from home. As long as you're not hurting anyone, including yourself, have at it.

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    • kirsten101
      7 years ago

      Glad you had a laugh, trying to keep it a bit clinical to minimize the creepy trolls.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Theres nothing wrong with exploring this side of your sexuality but you do need to remain safe. I would not bring random strangers into my home or go to theres or even a motel. Doing things safe is going to take away your anonymous thrill tho so... I don't know you should just be aware your engaging in risky behavior. Probly less so than if your thing was anonymous men but still risky. You might do better to check out swinger parties you can have lots of sex with ppl you don't know but there are still lots of other ppl around in other rooms so if something goes really wrong your not alone.

    The -fun is all that matters- and -if your not hurting anyone have at it- answers are clearly from ppl that haven't walked the road your on. With ppl you know yea fun is all that matters but when you start getting into anonymous stuff your exposing yourself to substantial risk. Be careful and look into swinger events single women are ALWAYS welcome and there are usually plenty of bi girls to have fun with.

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    • kirsten101
      7 years ago

      Gave it some thought, and I think you're right. Just because it's women doesn't mean something couldn't go horribly wrong.
      A friend and I are looking into some swinger clubs about 3.5 hours away. We are introducing ourselves as a bi- lesbian couple. It is a little white lie, we are not lesbian or a couple, but we are bisexual :-)

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    • KingTermite
      7 years ago

      As Emily says you're putting yourself at a degree of risk. Please be careful.

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      • mysistersshadow
        7 years ago

        Its all good I get down voted for giving sane advice this place just gets better all the time.

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        • KingTermite
          7 years ago

          Don't let it get you down Em you give some better advice than most of these wonks deserve.

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          • mysistersshadow
            7 years ago

            I know thank you for your support. :)

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