Is it normal that i dont have the life skills to obtain a job(entry level)?

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Im 19, Graduated high school, and I dont know what Im doing in the world. My parents always pushed me off on other people to raise me. I kinda resent them for it. Any way, They never even attempted to help me find a job, get into college, etc. I guess they tried to sheild me from the world, never to know how to take of myself; and when I was old enough to them, put me out to fend for myself. As if I was just a paycheck to them.

I might need some more serious psychiatric help, but until then, I guess I'll have to rely on IIN.

Im on my last leg, and about to get put out on the streets. Please, Im begging the world for help, for whats thats worth.

Is this normal?

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    Don't think you need psychiatric help: you sound fairly sorted to me.

    Do you have no friends or relatives who can accommodate you?

    Of course you have life skills. You are articulate and together enough to express yourself on this forum. And you WILL be able to find someone to employ you.

    I wish you well. Let us know how you go on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks

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  • little_freak
    11 years ago

    It's perfectly normal to feel that way at that stage in your life. If you want my advice: your post is WAY too much about your parents. Blaming them won't take you anywhere, even if they truly are to blame. Just give them a break and try to see what can be done from the point where you are now. Let go of the past, what has been done and what could have been done. That's all bullshit.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Oh no what happened to your other leg?

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  • answerme
    8 years ago

    People millions of years ago were forced to work to even live. You don't need motivation. You need to stop being a pussy and blaming others for your flaws

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  • answerme
    8 years ago

    I've been homeless half my life. My parents abused me and now I'm a millionaire. Stop making excuses and being lazy and get a job. Or date someone rich;)

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    • answerme
      8 years ago

      Not me though

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    How about Job Corps? http://www.jobcorps.gov/home.aspx

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You must didnt see the earlier message. Im in college now sweetie

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      • RoseIsabella
        11 years ago

        Oh, sorry about that. Well all the best to you. Maybe some cognitive behavioral therapy might help with certain life skills.

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  • Coolieo
    11 years ago

    Congratulations :-)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      :3

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Good news! Im going to college!

    In march, I'll be headed off to complete a degree in Video game production.

    Hell yeah!

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  • Alec_the_Protector
    11 years ago

    Do you really want a job? If so, I suggest you stop feeling sorry for yourself, go out and get one. Complaining about what your parents did and talking about how you don't have any life experience isn't scoring you a job, so stop complaining about what you can't do, stop crying over the internet and go look for one. Is it possible that you won't find one? Yeah. Shit happens all the fucking time and every fucking day, but as long as you keep telling yourself shit like "I don't have any life skills to obtain a job" then you never fucking will.

    Take life's shit as tool to make you wiser not as an excuse to be a failure. I assure you, I've been around much longer than you have, and if there's anything I learned from this world it's that you have to learn how to eat life's shit like gourmet dish, otherwise, you'll always be stuck in a pitiful fucking rut you dug for yourself.

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    • answerme
      8 years ago

      It's your parents fault for your childhood but it's the past the day is present and its your fault for not having a job

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      • answerme
        8 years ago

        Don't blame others

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  • CheyChey
    11 years ago

    The fact that your parents didn't help you find a college really is irrelevant because you are 19 years old and grown up. You don't need them to hold your hand throughout that process. Your life is your own. Psychiatric help? that's a bit drastic don't you think. If you really want to go to college find a job get a loan put yourself through college. You need to take the necessary steps to better your life. I know growing up sucks, you are protected from the world then all of a sudden you are thrust into this situation were you have to grow up and put away childish things, everyone goes through it for some myself included it's more drawn out & dramatic.

    If college is impossible take some courses that can help you get a job. I'm a firm believer of education & how it can get you where you want to be and nobody cam take that away from you. Once you've climbed one stumbling block everything will fall into place just be patient.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I'll try as hard as I can. Thank you.

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  • ucipher8
    11 years ago

    If you are really about to be put on the street and resent your parents for keeping you fed and alive up until now (batman was my nanny growing up) then you need to just get the saddest job out there.

    Mcdonalds would hire you, restaurants or diners looking for a dishwasher or a busboy will hire you.

    Maybe this wasnt what you were looking for but you have no life skills so your options are limited.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks for the advice. *sarcasm noted*

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      • 1000yrVampireKing
        11 years ago

        I would recommend getting certificates which you do not need a lot of school for if you do not plan to go to a university or community school. Get a food handler card online since that will help you get a minimum wage job or else you can not deal with food. Get a certificate for customer service. Always dress your nicest for your interview. I wish you luck but having 2 years helps you most of all.

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        • ucipher8
          11 years ago

          I dont like the idea of dress, "up" for an interview, if you fail, you would
          be and probably look miserable and, all "dressed" up with no where to go. although I personally wouldn't arrive at an interview looking like a slob, I just hate having to look like im going to a wedding. My wardrobe leaves much to be desired...

          Anyway, most successful chefs start out like you. Unmotivated and young enough to be a 25 year old culinary prodigy.

          Dont let education out you down, some of the most successful Americans started out speaking a different language and literally on the street. Today they live across the street from you, with 3 kids. One of whom you have a huge crush on, shes (insert ethnic race here) and, only dates guys who drive.

          You get my point. Just know, in the restaurant industry, you wear your big boy pants. Dont worry about your lack of training, what you lack you will gain through what you choose to accomplish

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          • 1000yrVampireKing
            11 years ago

            Yes teaching someone to dress like a slob is not a good idea. Who taught you how to go to an interview? Also I do not think inspiring to be homeless is really a good thing regardless of it happening. Since getting raped and beaten is what happens to a lot of these people. Looking pitiful is not a good way to get the job. Saying "Well I wont get it anyways so I might as well look shitty" is stupid.

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            • ucipher8
              11 years ago

              I was trying to encourage him to go to an interview as himself and not as someone who was obviously trying to dress up to impress people. Anyways, im sorry for my input, your advice is the best advice, I give I give

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          • ucipher8
            11 years ago

            You will gain what you lack through your accomolishment, that is....

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      • ardcz
        11 years ago

        I don't think the entire reply was sarcastic. The truth is, entry level jobs like one at McDonalds, can teach you some life skills you're lacking. The tedious tasks you'll have to perform will teach you responsibility and accountability, which will help you be a better employee for your next employer.

        Have you ever thought about being in the military? That would be a great crash course in real like skills.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          I tried the military, but I have asthma so the military is a no go.

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