Is it normal that i don't want to rush anything w the one i love?

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In my past relationships, we would do the talking and getting to know each other and then get together maybe after a couple of weeks. Or not even together, but make the decision to stop. However, I've been talking w this guy for a year now and I seriously and honestly feel sooo strong about this guy, I see so much potential and the way he makes me feel is just special. Were both on the same page to take it slow meaning we don't do a lot of couple things. To everyone, it seems confusing and they'll question why didn't he do this why didn't I do that...well just don't push us. Well do those things when it comes natural. You would think cause were crazy about each other we would just get together already but its actually the other way. We do like each other a lot that we don't want to rush into anything and take our time. Were like the Brad and Angelina that doesn't really have to put a label or something yet but were together, were an item. Quality>convenience? Sometimes though, I know it would be nice to put on a label. Sometimes I wanna ask "hey are we together?" but I'm either going to get a "duhh" or a "you know our situation" and I'll feel dumb after. But that's just sometimes. Just like how Brangelina got married and no one cares because they didn't have to get married to prove their love is like how pple will see us in a few months or years when we make it "Facebook official" or something. Like what a surprise.

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  • LadyOfDecay♡
    9 years ago

    If you're happy that's all that counts. I thought everone liked to be official for their own peace of mind, not facebook official or anything. The facebook thing has never bothered me. I don't even have facebook :D

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  • TareBear20
    9 years ago

    Labels are stupid. Keep doing exactly what you're doing.

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  • LadyOfDecay♡
    9 years ago

    There's nothing wrong with wanting to take things slow when it comes to relationships, everyone is different.

    Beware though, a guy who is reluctant to put a label on things might have some sort of motive for being that way. Not saying your significant other, or whatever you call him, is one of these guys, but it happens.

    You're right in saying that people would think if you were that crazy about eachother, there would be no issue in making things official.

    I believe today's society has imprinted way too many negative aspects of relationships into our heads, for example movies who feature a girl who calls the guy a lot, wants to spend time with him, and is then labelled as clingy and supposedly scares the guy off. Ridiculous.

    I think that there's nothing wrong with taking it slow, as I said before, but it strikes me as odd why you wouldn't feel the absolute need to be his girlfriend, officially.

    Think about it this way - when he speaks to other girls and they ask him if he has a girlfriend, what do you think he says? Yes? Kind of? I'm seing someone but we're not official?

    That kind of an answer will tell most females that a guy is technically available and if that doesn't make your skin crawl I don't know what will.

    Taking it slow to be sure of your feelings is one thing, but taking it so slow that you've been "speaking" for a year and he has not yet grown a pair to ask you out officially, that's something else.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well you're right that it does make my skin crawl about what kind of answer he would say. Knowing him, he would say something like "yeah" very vague to keep it simple unless they keep pushing him to detail it more then he would probably stumble and try to change the subject because he wouldn't know what to say since it's weird if he does respond "kind of we're talking..." But what makes everything better is its not much of what we say verbally but its just how we truly feel and that is we're together and we don't feel a need to be with other people. Yes, we might have the "right" to be with others but do we WANT to? Not really.

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    • TareBear20
      9 years ago

      It's a great answer, but don't try to make someone anxious about things that could happen. It sets everyone up for disaster. Now the poor girl will be wondering all those things, when it's unnecessary. It is ok to not be official , especially Facebook official.

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