Is it normal that i don't think that putting someone on the friendzone is bad?

That isn't the friendzone. That's friendship, and you're right: It's a great thing.

Every time I hear that "friendzone" shit, I want to smack someone. Everyone has had to deal with unrequited love, and everyone has the same two mature choices to make: stay friends and get over your crush, or abandon the friendship because it hurts too much. Other options are just self-inflicted pain.

Anyone who willingly sticks around and hopes for more when he (or she -- it happens to women too) has already been told it won't happen, then gets angry when it doesn't happen is a complete asshole.

If they don't want to be friendzoned they can just stop being friends with the person, it's up to them. -.-

The term friendzoned is like a rewards system for guys or even girls. Like being second best and winning his/her friendship instead of other things like sex and more physical relationship is a loophole in the lottery. The whole thing is simply overrated BS to me. It puts people as means to an end. Objectifying them and creating a level of sexual rights. This makes people feel especially women like they have an obligation to reward people with the same amount of requited love if say, the person tried all their might to be nice to them.

People are not a prize to be won and their sexuality possessed. Don't put forth blame for your insecurities towards some sort of friendship context if you don't want to reveal yourself as an ass with the ulterior motive of sex.

dnt mind me just an unemployed kid passing through

I understand their frustration. Rejection is a bitch. Especially for guys who have a harder time dealing with it. However, I wish guys understood that it's nothing too personal. I've friendzoned guys that I have like because I am not attracted to them. I can't help who I am attracted to and it sucks because I know I have turned down perfectly suitable mates because there just was not the right chemistry there.

I agree. Males and females can be friends without being more, and I don't understand why some people think otherwise. Also, if the romantic connection isn't there, it just isn't and often times it's not something to be taken personally. I had this kind of situation with a guy recently, I liked him as a friend, but he liked me as more than friends and went a little crazy with texting and Facebooking. I felt kinda bad for not feeling the same way, but no one can control how they feel right?

Being in the friendzone is better than being enemies.

People should learn to appreciate the friendship rather than being bitter about the lack of romance.

I am iffy on the subject. Why would someone friendzone something that has the qualities they like in someone?

"Hey, I want someone that is kind, nice, fun, and caring, someone like you....That isn't you."
I mean, come on.

You make the assumption that being "friendzoned" and complaining about it is because they don;t get sex from the person, as if to say men only want sex from people. Maybe he actually cared for the person friendzoning them in more than a sexual way?

I think everyone has a right to choose who they want to be with, but it pisses me off when I see some girl saying she wants a guy with all these positive traits, trying to seem like she is so moral, only to friendzone such guys and end up with the opposite of what she claimed she wanted, just to sit there and complain that there are no more nice guys, even though there was enough that she friendzoned.

We have a right not to be attracted to someone, but I don't like it when people try to act all moral and say they want a nice guy, to try elevate her moral status, then reject the guys that fit "exactly" with what she claimed she wanted.

You can be attracted to who you want to be, but when you try bullshit people in to saying you want a certain person to elevate your own moral status, then not choose such people, then I think the person is wrong.

Yes, I do agree.

The ones who complain about friendzoning are not secure enough to realize that there are others out there or that maybe they don't care about themselves enough, and really know who they are.

There is nothing wrong with friendship; people aren't to be used. :)

The concept of a friendzone was created by people who want to blame being human for why the person they like doesn't like them back. It's total bullshit. The idea that someone can't see you as anything other than a friend once you become friends is so ignorant it makes me sick.

I don't get why guys hate on the girl that friendzoned them, like blah blah blah fuck that bitch, what a cunt.

When I've been friendzoned in the past (yes it happens ladies, even to the best of us), I've only ever had myself to blame and hated on myself. I would say, fuck man, I need to seriously step up my game. Then I'd learn from that shit, get better at seducing the women folk and get friendzoned less and less, to the point where, now, I get about 90% of the girls I go after. Though I suppose part of it is knowing before you approach someone, whether or not they're going to be receptive to my shredded abs and perfectly chizzled cheekbones.

I'm a guy and I put great value on my platonic relationships with women. They give me valuable insight into the psychology of women, how they see different things. Otherwise id be clueless!

If she knows I want her, and she isn't clear about what she thinks of me, I may get resentful. I would rather her treat me with respect and at least try to convey the truth to me in some way, whether it be through obvious hints or just straightforward honesty. But usually I don't think its a problem, because when I want a girl I make sure that she knows, and most of the time its not hard to tell whether or not she's wasting my time. Unless she is purposefully leading me on for her own egotistical gratification, then she's a bitch.

It's not that they owe it but at least just say you're not into us. Girls believe that saying lets be friends is less harsh than saying I'm not attracted to you (even if you were the last guy on earth) but the truth is it isn't. After all if you can't be more than friends you ARE telling us that we're unattractive and I can't be friends with someone who just insulted me and lowered my self-confidence one more notch. Besides it would be awkward anyway...

You only get "friendzoned" if you act like a friend.

Here's a tip, don't act like a friend if you want to get laid. I've been a jerk my whole life and I've never had trouble getting laid.

Just act "nice enough" until you've screwed them, then revert to being a "jerk".

Since it is men/women who are only looking for the next score. So they can say "look at me I did it again"! Some people only make friends so they could find more dates. They don't want friendship they want to get rid of that pain in their pants. They are called players and most people want to be one now a days. A lot of people seem to think they deserve everyone. So if you reject them something is mentally wrong with you. Some people take this a step further and force it. Which gets them into hot water.

Benefit FRAUD?

They're probably just letting out their frustrations in any way they can. Been there before with someone I care deeply about...twice actually. I've never complained nor do I feel entitled to their reciprocation of amorous feelings...but it does suck pretty badly. Who knows, maybe if I were more extroverted and less submissive I would complain...still, it would be unprecedented and a little foolish.

The OP is probably an asexual nerd who doesn't care about anyone, that's why he doesn't understand the negative effect of being friendzoned.