Is it normal that i don't love my father?

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Ever since I was a child, I never really enjoyed my father's presence. He used to scare me, because he was strict and never really showed any signs of affection when I was a kid. My relationship with him was never really close, maybe because he was never really around very often. He was always at work so I never really spent much time with him.
I am now pretty grown up and still hasn't developed love for my father. I don't hate him though, but when he's at home (which is occasional), I'm not very fond of it.
Thoughts?

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    This is normal: I didn't love my father either for pretty much the same reasons plus being scared of his anger when I was little. I wasn't sad when he died and I'm still not decades later, in fact I was glad because my mother had a much better life after he was gone.

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    I feel the same way about all of my immediate family. I stopped going home for holidays about half way through college and just stayed with friends that lived near campus and they didn't seem to notice not even a phone call to see if I was ok. My reasons are different from yours but with the same kind of outcome.

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    • unripetomato
      8 years ago

      damn thats sad...
      I think its important to be in touch with family though, just to be able to have that assurance that someone will be there for you no matter what.
      But if you already have those kind of peopel through friends then, thats perfectly fine.
      I hope you dont feel lonely without you family though. :)

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      • mysistersshadow
        8 years ago

        You don't need to feel bad for me I'm happier and less lonely now than I was with them in my life.

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  • ~PhoenixAngel~
    7 years ago

    really*

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  • ~PhoenixAngel~
    7 years ago

    I also don't have a very good relationship with my father either. I don't relly love him much. I do love him for shelling out the money to raise me but sometimes I just wish he would've left me.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Sounds like you are still living in his home and eating the food he provides. Is he paying for your phone and internet, too? I guess you don't need to love somebody to use them, huh?

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    • unripetomato
      8 years ago

      I may be living in his home, and I am grateful for what he does to provide for me, but I cant force myself to love him. I am not using my father for my needs, I respect him and all, but I just don't feel love for him. I guess when you grow up not feeling attachment for your father you dont feel it?

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