Is it normal that i don't like people, but i always do nice things for them?

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I am not the most sociable person in the world. I almost always prefer to be alone. It is extremely easy for me not to like others. I usually dislike 80% of the people I meet.

However... the problem is that I always end up doing nice things for anyone, even people I hate. In fact, the more I hate someone, the nicer I am to the person.

I don't know, it is not like I actually try to be nice, it just comes out naturally. The thing about people I don't like... is that I somehow subconciously feel like I "owe" them something just for hating them...

So... is it normal to act like this?

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Based on 40 votes (33 yes)
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  • Love2Teach
    11 years ago

    I feel like it is your way of 'making it up to them'...like in your subconscious you feel guilty for disliking them so you feel the need to do nice things for them. I don't feel like its weird though - I think it just means you are a good person.

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  • RougeTheBat
    11 years ago

    Killlllll them!....With kindness.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Have you been stealing Amy's hammer again?

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      • RougeTheBat
        11 years ago

        Hehe Maybe.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    I generally don't feel like I owe anyone anything by being kind, but it is a default mechanism for me. Often, I feel like people don't know what true kindness is so I am happy to share some with them, even if they don't deserve it.

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  • Skitzo1
    11 years ago

    I do it too. Although they think I like them, and they think I think I like them, but I dont.

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  • ants91shearer
    11 years ago

    i dont like people, but dnt do nice things 4 them thats just lick ass

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  • Charmo
    11 years ago

    I do it too. I think it's because although I am mostly cynical, my optimistic inner child compels me to be nice to the people I don't like being around.

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  • grumpy_fish
    11 years ago

    Although it may be a nice thing to do, if it puts you at a disadvantage such as doing a task for someone instead of putting your own work or health first, then I think you have self confidence issues. I had the same problem in the past. You may want to read a self help type of book.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I like people, but I always do bad things to them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It sounds like you want everyone to like you, at the expense of dignity, self-esteem, etc.

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  • slightlystoopiid
    11 years ago

    Wow so weird, I do the same exact thing. I am always doing so many favors for people and it's not bc I'm gullible, I do it off my own volition without any influence. I wish I could stop but if I treated people how they deserved I wouldn't have any friends. And I do it w ppl I hate too. I think I always do it bc I think if I were in that situation I wish someone would do the same for me. But hey, the world needs more nice people like us.

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  • Johnnytherat
    11 years ago

    well since im pretty much guaranteed to be in that 80% i have just this to say..... you sir are a spineless two faced nancy boy stop doing shit 4 ppl u dont even like

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