Is it normal that i don't know how to act when i see her around other people?

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I have a very special friend, we aren't suppose to be friends,it's complicated. I can't see her often privately so when I do out and about there's usually other people around.
With other people around, she'll acknowledge me discretely and will always spot me in a second, even across a hall through 100s of people. Sometimes she'll come near by,talk to someone else near me or do something to get my attention but we have to make do with only being able to glance at each other. She wouldn't wave or sing out, we'd just connect eyes. She knows I'll look for her whenever she's gonna be somewhere and hopefully it's vise versa.
But I have trouble hiding the happiness when we do see each other, even if it has to be like that , she's much cooler and better at that stuff though.

I'm worried I'm putting her on the spot not playing it down as much as she can. But then I'm also worried that she'll think I don't care or didn't see her until we can be alone again.
Truth is I'm also just so happy to see her and inside I want her to know, even if we can't connect right there, it could be a mth or something before we can. Or sometimes it's the day after we just have, it kills me not show it.

Do you think she'd be cringing inside and wishing I'd tone it down at those times , should I ? How do I do it then , just eyes and a subtle hi or what? Will she still know I care, that I've seen her and that I'm aware and thinking of her being right there?

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  • go4it
    12 years ago

    Thanks for the replies so far , I know it's not making sense.
    On the difficult side , yep there's marriages and then there's what you could call paparazzi , seeing everything, if anything got out- don't even wanna go there.
    So we steel what we can,mths between, it's un f'n bearable and the rest is in public where we can't show anything anyway or I sure wouldn't be woosing around like that believe me but it's better than giving each other up.
    No sex as such really, through loyalties. We were both happy and have people and lives outside of us, if we weren't we'd be to hell with it all, nice and simple.
    To see her yet have to pretend , it's hell.
    I should have titled the post STUCK !

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    she is married

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    what did u mean by "we aren't suppose to be friends". is there like some romero and juliet thing or a major age diffence? thats what is sounded like to me? in which case me change the advice i would give. plz explain (if u want real advice that is otherwise just read the above messages)

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  • nanimeow
    12 years ago

    Get her contact information outside of where you are worried other people will notice and meet up without others knowing. If I were in you situation, that is what I would want. If she wants you, she is probably frustrated you haven't tried to meet privately with her. If you are nervous, keep it simple like watching a movie together at the other one's house.

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  • InsertBlankHere
    12 years ago

    Why don't you stop concerning yourself with how your standoffish flirting is perceived, and actually make a move? From your description it sounds like you're both mutually interested in each other. She's probably waiting for you to say something... which is silly. There's no reason why she shouldn't take the initiative, herself. However, most women expect the man to start it up, so you ought to do something before she gets bored of this wink/nod nonsense.

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    • Ldizzy1234
      12 years ago

      I agree. You're just letting time pass you by. If you're interested just make a move already. And its true, a lot of times girls wait for the guys to make the first move.

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  • I_steal_free_bread
    12 years ago

    Hook up

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