Is it normal that i don't have feelings for my ex but still want her in ways?

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A couple months ago me and my (now ex) girlfriend broke up. It was a mutual break up since we both felt we didn't really have anything in common. We have broken up before once, which lasted for a week, and we still had sex and acted as if we were together, the difference was; we weren't.

Anyways, now that it's been a couple months of not-talking, etc, I kind of miss her but for all the wrong reasons. I won't ever see myself marrying this girl or falling for her like I did for the other girls I have dated before, but if she were to meet up with me again to see how things are going (and I know she would) and for example, kiss me.. I wouldn't stop her from doing so. If she were to suddenly message me saying she wants me to come over and have sex, I would do it, which seems wrong.

I am normally not this kind of person, and I've never really had sex or did anything with anybody I wasn't in a relationship with. I'm even 70% pretty sure she has a new relationship again from what I can see on her facebook, so I know we won't have sex or kiss or anything like that, but I still would want to, eventhough I really don't like her. To be even more honest with you, she annoyed the fuck out of me when we were together. She's kind of crazy, even my friends noticed, who met her once. And worst of all, she's a mean person. She doesn't accept people's choices and thinks she's all that. She is also spoiled.

Anyways.. despite me strongly disliking her, seeing how mean she was to people, not loving her, not being as jealous as her (probably) new relationship, then I should be, I still want to sleep with her. I would kind of want to have a friend-with-benefits kind of relationship with her. I know we can't, since she's probably together now with someone. I just really miss sleeping with her. I feel pretty bad for thinking like this, since I've never been this way. And I should kind of dislike her all together since she was such a mean person to my friends and my family as well. I dislike her. I'm not even remotely in love with her.

I simply miss sleeping with her and I would like to know if this is normal?

Not that it matters by the way, but I'm a girl myself too.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Normal, dude.

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  • onebigbang
    8 years ago

    Lots of people crave a shag

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Most of us have had or have someone like that in our lives: you need to weigh up whether the sex is worth it or not

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  • Jazyritz619
    8 years ago

    Been with my spouse for 7 years. We dated when were teenagers and for the first 2 years, we noticed our relationship was falling apart (we didn't have much in common and other reasons). We tried to split up and see other people but no matter what, we were always in touch. We eventually started to cheat on the people we were dating or cheated each other. On our 5th years anniversary, after constant trouble, we decided to make it official.

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