Is it normal that i dislike people that feel a need to get close to me?

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People (mainly people I work with) that I see on a regular basis, everytime we run in to each other, they ask me how I'm doing that day and try to get friendly with me. I find it to be a huge annoyance. I've had full conversations with said persons a few times, and that wasn't bad. I don't particularly dislike said persons (thought I am beginning to with the longer they keep this up), but their constant need to talk to me just gets under my skin. I just want to be left alone more than anything, is that normal?

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I don't mind if they're trying to engage in a little small talk like how I'm doing that day, and "Oh it's a beautiful day outside.". But with me, I hate when they ask me personal questions. And when I say personal, I mean really fucking personal stuff that I honestly don't know why they wanna know so bad. Like if I'm a virgin. And if it's not that kind of personal, then its some other stupid meaningless information that they wanna know.

    A lot of people at my work ask me about my outside life, and what I do when I'm not at work. I think to myself, why do they care so much? I really hate it when its people who I don't even really know, or ever really talk to that ask me this stuff. And if I tell them that I go to school, they wanna know every little detail. What my major is, what school it is, what other classes I take, do I party a lot, where I live, if the commute is long or short, etc. POINTLESS stuff. Oh! And I love this one, "Where are you from?", "What school did you graduate from?", "Whens your birthday?". And honestly, questions like that normally don't get under my skin, but lately it's been bothering me because the people who ask me this stuff I barely know, and they're just doing it to be nosey(I think). I have people come into my work who I don't even see on a regular basis and they ask me what my nationalities are. Why? Do I look like I could be from another country or something? I don't know why they wanna know so bad. In fact, I was also asked the other day, what kind of bed I sleep in. And it sounds like I'm kidding you, but I'm not. I had to ask another coworker if there was some kind of inside joke going around about me. She said she hadn't heard anything. Seriously, WTH??

    Oh, here's a good example of what I think you could do if people get too brazen. My friend when she was moving, one of her neighbors who never bid her family the time of day, just randomly started talking to her mom out of the blue. But she only started talking to her because she wanted to know where they were moving to. Can you believe that? Well, when the woman asked my friends mom said, "We're moving to Africa." (That was a lie.) The woman, didn't know whether to smile or what the hell to think. She had a blank expression on her face, and she didn't know what to say. She was just like, "Oo okay...". People sometimes don't realize when they've crossed the line.

    Don't become too anti social, but know what information to give, and what information to keep to yourself. Like when those people asked me if I was a virgin or not. Thats something thats none of anyones business, unless we're dating, or I'm close enough with them where they can know.

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    • wigsplitz
      12 years ago

      I had a person ask me about a medical condition once, and they kept prodding. I barely knew this person. I had to be very abrupt and just say "it's personal"...they still didn't get it.

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      • Ldizzy1234
        12 years ago

        I hate that crap! They just don't get it.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    Sometimes I feel the same way. I would have become a hermit if it weren't for 3 things.

    Videogames.

    Pizza.

    iPhone.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    You must be something, to attract that much attention, and for people wanting so badly to be included in your life somehow!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Honestly, as far as my workplace is concerned, it's probably because I'm the only young girl among the 7-9 guys that work there.

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    Then quit your fucking job, retreat from society and become a damn hermit.

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    • timebobbu
      12 years ago

      he doesnt care enough to throw everything away obviously rofl

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  • Thelaconicallsocialist
    10 years ago

    I've seemed to trail a similar problem, accept the circumstances are slightly different. It's not the words that bother me; it's their goddamn eyes. I'll look up to find them staring at me, when I try so hard to slip by unnoticed. And never, ever is it a decent person. They always have red reputations, or shitty grades, or lack of respect to anyone. As a straight male, this problem actually happened to me when it was a guy. That infuriated me, for whatever reason.

    He can think what he wants.

    But you have to accept that society is a rainbow of colors, sometimes modest and pretty, sometimes bright and brazen. It could be just the irony of the fact that those who don't want that attention are only bound to get it.

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  • gamegrace
    12 years ago

    Omg I'm EXACTLY like you O:

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    Keep in mind this is how people start conversations.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Hah. I make crap up to tell these ass holes---a separate "factoid" for each. Why not? If they call me on it, I just tell them that they must be mistaken...I never said it... Also, if it gets back to me through the office grapevine, I know exactly who has been gossiping about me.

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    • Ldizzy1234
      12 years ago

      Good idea Gems! Thats great for revenge. I'm a very honest person, but I found out through a coworker that certain people were saying some very hurtful things that were, and I believe are STILL going around my work about me, and seriously, those are the exact people that always have the questions about my life. They're the ones who always seem the most talkative, and claim they "like me", and that I'm "so sweet". It pissed me off! I even heard a guy say things about me to another guy while I was in the same room! And he always seemed like a good guy. I mean, I can't say that everyone who says I'm so sweet, or that they like me, is just bullshitting me, but I feel like I always have to watch who I talk to now. I can't trust many people, and a lot of those people who talk to me have never really held a conversation with me in the WHOLE year I've been there. So how would they know me enough to say something so hurtful? I mean, we only exchanged a few hello's and goodbye's, that means they know me? That gives them the right to say such hurtful things about me?

      I found out that they were saying that I'm slow, and stupid/ditzy. Well, sorry that my kindness and sweetness is being mistaken as "slowness"!!!! And let me tell ya, I'm not one to really get physical with people, but when I get angry it's not pretty. And I wanted to dropkick their asses to the nursing home across the street!!!!

      I think I'm way too nice to some of the people at my work. They'll never meet anybody as nice as me. And what makes me even more angry, was that I didn't judge them, I was so friendly to them, but then when I found out what they were saying... ugh! It makes me disgusted how fake they are. And if ever they slip and say something hurtful about me when I'm around, I will make them apologize. I can't believe I didn't do something about it the first time.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        I do what I do not for revenge,but, just to maintain privacy and control over my life. And, more often than not, I simply answer a question with a question. For example:

        Probing Asshole: Are you Black Irish? Where were you born? What is your racial background? Are you Catholic?

        Me: My! You ask a lot of personal questions... Did you know that? Now, tell me... again... why exactly you "need" to know this? How is it related to my work at the XYZ Company?

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  • Cobrakitnu
    12 years ago

    Maybe they just wanna get to know you out of pure friendliness and curiosity? Jeez.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      If that were the case, they would be sharing information about themselves first versus interrogating her; a complete stranger. What gives anyone "the right" to know something about a complete stranger? Because they ask? You need to bear the onus of self disclosure if you approach someone you do not know at all. Otherwise, you come off as UNSANE and a major nuisance.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Be that as it may, it still annoys the crap out of me. There's only a very select few people I enjoy being around. I wasn't asking what their intentions where anyways.

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  • nanimeow
    12 years ago

    Yes, it is normal. There is a woman I work with that constantly drives me batshit. She is a nice person but I like to keep our relationship limited. Honestly, I think you just have to accept you are going to work with some people you don't like and you have to live with somethings they do. I'm sure there are things I do which annoy people so I just figure it is a two way street.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      It's not so much that the people annoy me. Cause some of them are actually decent people. It's just when we get on "friendly" terms and then before I know they're trying to constantly have conversations, or always calling me or IMing me (if I made the mistake of sharing that bit of info...not doing that again) and getting in my personal space bubble.

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