Is it normal that i completely withdraw & disapeer from anyone i get close to?

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Okay, this is something that has been an big issue for a long time with me. I'm a very friendly, open, social person and making friends is not a problem with but keeping them is. When I meet someone new, we get along fine like perfectly, exchange numbers, hangout, have great& fun times and then all of the sudden I just completly avoid the person for NO reason. I stop answering/ Calling them, avoid places they go to and just basically disapeer. It even happens with my boyfriends and I'm not even mad at them! Sometimes I leave for months or you just won't see me again with no word of me. I hate to be ignored myself it hurts but for some reason I do it. I don't know what is wrong with me and is this normal??

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  • lovelyfun91
    12 years ago

    I dont want to treat them like that! This the problem because they are good people and do care for me. I just suddenly get REPULSED by them or anyone eventually. I dont think this is normal anymore...

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  • iAddicted
    12 years ago

    You better realize what you have before you loose it. It's better to have those people around because otherwise you'll end up completely alone. If you ignore everyone and avoid them as well they won't be there when you need them the most and It's good to know you have people you can depend on so don't loose them by treating them like that. Trust me this all coming from a guy who learned this way too late... I'm left with no friends nor girlfriend because I use to be the same exact way...

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  • lovelyfun91
    12 years ago

    They get to know me well and really like me and I enjoy them without worries of rejection. Its so strange I just cut them off from my life and it becomes a cycle - new friends and in a matter of time I cut them off and avoid. Whats wrong with me?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Maybe you're afraid they won't like you once they get to know you better so you cut it off before it happens?

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  • lovelyfun91
    12 years ago

    This is the thing it started in the last ten years. I enjoy making friends and socializing but i get this epiphany and disapeer. They didn't do anything to me. I feel so bad when a guy is in love with me and I ignore him completly and people beg to talk to them but I don't want to. This is such a hassle and its killing me emotionally

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  • Sweetz
    12 years ago

    If i could i could probably go even long without people but it makes me feel bad ignoring people so i eventually contact them just so that i don't loose contact. I don't know if its normal but to me its normal :p

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  • Sweetz
    12 years ago

    I do the same thing but not for months i just isolate myself from them for a short amount of time, like a couple days or weeks. I have my quiet times where i dont want to hear about others. I don't get clingy nor want others to cling to me. I enjoy talking to others but easily get bored after a few days and just need to get away so i could think and just relax or i begin to feel like im loosing myself.. kind of like im my own best friend. Being around the same people too much kind of frustraits me so i push people away which kind of makes it hard keeping up with friends but that could be it you don't want to get too close to people or you are private person who enjoys being a loner...

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Are you worried that once you get to know them better, or they get to know you better, that you won't have as much fun together?

    If you can maintain a relationship with someone past the ho-hum I-know-everything-about-you-now stage, then that's when you start growing a real relationship with someone and it's AWESOME. ;)

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