Is it normal that i cant live with my girlfriend but i am afraid to break up?

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I have been with my girlfriend for 1,5 years now, and in my opinion she takes it waay to sereously. I am a 17 year old guy and she is 16 but she already keeps talking about children and living together. Everytime I mention I want to travel the world for about a year or more she immedeately starts to cry and begs me not to go while I havent even made plans or anything yet. I just want to see the world or when I try to start a little bit of an argument. Not a fight ofcourse but like when she loses at a game I say she is a big fat loser (in a playful way ofcourse). And then she just replies with yes, you are way better but you are o so good at games!. No tesponse is given! Now that I am thinking of breaking up with her but as soon as I even try to mention that I am not even sure I want to marry or that I don't even want to think about that she just starts to cry again so is this normal behavour for a girlfriend being so docile? and if you could spare the time could you write in the comments what your opinion of this situation is? it would be greatly appreceated

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I do think it's time that you move on from her. I can see that you both have different views on how you want your lives to be. You are both very young and still have many changes in your lives yet to come, so I do think that she is in over her head with the whole marriage thing, and it is quite normal that you are not ready for that. I'm sorry, but I do not think this relationship will work. She seems to be the one to get married and have kids right out of high school, and you sound like you really want to do something with your lives. Again, you are still young, and whether or not you will even have the same feelings for each other in the next couple of years is not even certain, but if you did get married early, had kids, imagine how difficult this relationship would be since you both want different things. You would not be happy as you never really got to do what you wanted in life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      well, you are absolutely right its still going to be very hard though but thnx for the advice :P

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      • plum6
        11 years ago

        I can imagine that you kind of like the stability that her commitment to you and the relationship provides though. At this point you are sure that this girl is here to stay which means you will always have someone to fall back on, naturally this is a very comforting notion.

        However, I myself was in a serious relationship for several years as well when I was your age and when looking back at it, I was just too young to settle down like that. It is dangerous to commit yourself this much to one girl and your life together because you will miss-out on so many other experiences while the risk of growing apart over time is still so evident.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    Tell her ur gay

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  • sissycakes
    11 years ago

    Don't live with her. End of story.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Considering she's 16... That's perfectly normal.

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