Iin: that i cant decide who to be with, and i love them both?!

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Ok so I have 2 children to my ex that I was with for over 10+ years off and on. When we broke up recently it was because how he was acting, not only in general but everyday it seemed to get worse. I would go places with our children and he would say I was cheating, he never made it a point to show any affection/attention to me at hardly at all. I did everything a stay at home mom was supposed to do laundry etc and never got any form of gratification at all. We never talked at all about any issues in the relationship we had and when we did he would blow it off and say he didn't want to argue. Since I have left him, I have recently been seeing someone that I have chased off and on for years and yet never had a chance to actually be with. I get the attention/affection I need, but when it comes to the living situation right now we are living with his mother and I constantly have to take care of her.(Not to mention the cockroaches and fleas in the house) I really hate being here but I don't want to leave him because I love him. He is a hard worker and we have alot in common. Although he cant really deal with my youngest boy that well and he drinks almost everyday. Anyway, my ex has been texting me nonstop everyday about how much he loves me and that he will change if I come back to him. It took me leaving for him to see how he treated me and how it made me become bitter towards him. I found out the other day while he was texting me all of this he was seeing/sleeping with his ex-girlfriend, it really upsets me. (Mainly because she is supposedly "in love" and dating another man and she treats my kids like crap) I cant explain why other than that and I still love him so I get upset when he is with someone else.(Even though I am as well) I suppose the big question is, If I love both allot, but who should I be with? Should I have stayed and dealt with how I was getting treated? And how do I decide if I should go back to my ex or try to stick it out with my new man and see how things go? I have broken my family apart, had a emotional breakdown, and I clearly need help!

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    I'd say LOOK AFTER YOUR KIDS FIRST, then go out and destroy your own life!

    Too much to say, not enough time.
    Get away from both and look after your kids. Goodbye.

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  • Wüstenfuchs
    11 years ago

    I would say to stick it out with this new man. People don't typically change as easily as they'd like to (if they'd like to to begin with). Old habits are hard to break. But still, with the mother, the living conditions, and the alcohol... It's a tough decision. But moms are tough! :P Whichever decision you make, try to be proactive! You have your kids and especially yourself to look after. You can make due with whatever you have. :] I believe so.

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  • Twistedlizard.
    11 years ago

    I dnt mean to sound judgemental, but where does tha belief that you cant fall in love with more than one person at a time come from? any ways. use caution. people tend to change only long enough to get what they want.

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  • eshaxoxo
    11 years ago

    I would say.. if you truly loved your ex you wouldn't have fallen in love with your current bf: ),good luck though!

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago

    I say go with Sawyer, Kate!

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  • Short&2thepoint
    11 years ago

    "if you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
    -Johnny Depp

    But yeah, i agree with Dad, take care of your kids first, ditch both of them if necessary.

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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago

    The kids just need to be disaplined I had to do this to my cousin I kicked his ass every time he went to take a drink or smoke it's a pain in the ass help your kids lossing your dad can hurt my aunt is practically a whore 5 husbands you need to comfort them I was away from my dad for a year (my mom and dad went in to a fight) for the first 9 months I cried my eyes out your kids have problems if you can't handle them you shouldent of had them

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