Is it normal that i can't think of anything to say, ever?

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Road trips? Utter vacuous silence. Out with a friend? I am /the/ listener. Swapping stories/experiences? I draw a blank every time. I never initiate conversation. I never make people laugh. I've been told the key is to deeply listen to what the other person is saying and then shape your response around that input, but even after doing this and understanding everything they said in detail, the best I can come up with is still the mechanical "Wow, that really is... something," or "Hmm, that sounds cool/awful," or the one with the least substance "Huh, that's interesting." Knee-jerk platitudes are my only defense. When alone my mind is buzzing with thoughts, but as soon as another human being enters the room it's like the whole factory loses power at once, or there's just an empty lot where a museum stood 2 seconds ago. I've fumbled a lot of solid opportunities with the fairer sex because of this problem, estranged myself from my family, and creeped out tons of people who were trying to be friendly. What's wrong with me?

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    I would recommend you just get more exposure to people. If you have lots of thoughts on your own but they disappear when your with people, that is a result of you being shy and intimidated by people. Meet with people more often and be around them more and you should come out of it. Trust me mate, a lot of people feel this way and I used to feel this also. You'll never be super talkative, but it can be coerced to natural levels.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I work the customer service desk at a retail store. I’m exposed to people for 8 unyielding hours a day.

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      • Doesnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Wow. Wouldn't have expected that based on the situation. But just try to make more conversation with them I guess. Also I would recommend practicing on family or closer friends first and slowly working out your comfort zone from there. And if it really is limiting your enjoyment in life, I may also recommend a therapist. But the descion is yours mate.

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