Is it normal that i can't talk to women anymore?

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I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem or not, but here's my story.

When this woman and I started dating and getting more intimate, we had sex, everyday, up to 8 times a day, and we were both happy.

Everything started slowing down gradually.

After 3 years of being with the woman of which I loved dearly, I proposed. Then everything slowed to almost a halt. We dated less, she ignored me more, we had sex less, etcetera.

A month after the proposal, a guy at the mall gave her the whole divorce spill.

She decided she didn't want to be engaged to me anymore, and didn't want to tell me why. And she left me.

3 weeks later, after I've lost everything, my car, my house, my job, and had nowhere else to go, I find out she went back to an ex.

And now, here I am, seven months later. I can't talk to women, can't even look at them anymore, I stay in the house, and I just feel as though I'm worth nothing. Is this normal?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Damn, man, sounds like the makings of a good country and western song.

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    • GraveRogue
      9 years ago

      Not a country fan, but that's a good idea. Haha

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Yeah. This happened to me when my fiancee just up and left one morning. You feel afraid to even appreciate another wans beauty because of what she might do to you when u get attached. Just keep ur head up. There's someone out there for ya. Trust me.

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    • GraveRogue
      9 years ago

      One can hope, huh?

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      • Nokiot9
        9 years ago

        "My best friend is a man, with a lab coat and a grin. Ihold my shaking hand and then he gives me medicine. It almost makes me feel at home, that they slowly steal my soul. I tell him I still feel alone. "Don't worry some day ,I promise, you will feel at home"

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  • Anime8
    9 years ago

    Don't let her run your life even when she's not around. You're not worth nothing. You have more self worth than you probably believe. Don't let this girl define you. I cannot fathom the pain that you're going through but all I can say is to try and focus on yourself. Forget about talking to women, focus on realizing that you're not nothing. Focus on fixing your life, not finding another wife.

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    • GraveRogue
      9 years ago

      I've got my life together now, I have another car, and a house of my own, and a steady career. Just can't talk to women, now.

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      • Petrichor.
        9 years ago

        Well, then, just talk to women! It doesn't have to be for romance or sex, just gradually work your way back to the person who could talk to women.

        Also, I don't understand how you can say your life is "together" when you can't even go outside of your home and talk/look at women, and feel worthless. Your life isn't completely together, yet.

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        • GraveRogue
          9 years ago

          My life is together, meaning my priorities have come first. I've gotten through college and I'm working with the company I've dreamed for. I feel worthless because of what's happened. I can't talk or look at women because of the fact, the past endeavor has made me not only shy, but scared. I don't want to be hurt again. The relationship I had before that one, I got cheated on, and the one before that, I was left for a better looking guy. Consecutively I've been let down, 3 times in a row. This last time though, the woman I wanted to marry, made me stop and question myself.

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          • Petrichor.
            9 years ago

            Ahh. So you've got your priorities together. To me that does not = life. But since you've explained what you mean I understand now.

            Some wounds do heal with time, and you say it's only been seven months since the breakup. So maybe if you give yourself more time you'll be able to talk to women again.

            Also, I understand how rejection can make you feel like it's you who is not worth anything, but some people just want something else. That doesn't mean that you aren't worth someone's love and affection. It just means that you haven't found that right person, yet. And you might miss that right person if you have doubts and fear about dating again.

            I think if you fear getting hurt again it's because you're still in pain and you have to heal completely first. Once you understand that this happens to a lot of people everyday, you'll understand that you can't give up because you had three relationships that failed.

            Are there things about yourself that you think could be a deal-breaker? Because if you don't have any then you're only single because you haven't been with the right women for you.

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  • Electricman11376
    9 years ago

    I got bout tha same problem man.

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