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My fiance and I have been trying to conceive for months. Still no sign of pregnancy, and we have been having unprotected sex for a while now. The doctors tested both him and I for infertility concerns but everything came back negative. So what's the deal? Is this normal?
There's really only a few days out of a month that you are able to get pregnant. You might be missing those days or just getting unlucky. You could even have been pregnant before but had very early miscarriage, which is super common and most women have no idea it even happened. And it's not anything you did wrong. It happens.
From a bbc article:
"The bottom line is that a single act of intercourse between a young couple has on average a one in 20 chance of pregnancy – this assumes the opportunity presented itself on a random day, as these things tend do when you are young.
Calculating success
So, given this, what are the chances of success for an average couple trying to have a child? People who study how populations change are called demographers, and they use the rather academic term to describe the chances of becoming pregnant during one menstrual cycle: “fecundability”.
This, of course, varies between couples, but the estimated average is between 15% and 30% in high-income countries. Taking this lower figure we can estimate that for an average couple trying to have a child, there is an 85% chance of finishing each month without conceiving. If we assume each month is the same and independent, then there is a 0.85 x 0.85 (multiplied 12 times) chance of not getting pregnant in a year of trying, which is 14%.
So, in other words, fecundability of 15% means a 100 – 14 = 86% chance of getting pregnant in a year. A figure of 90% is often quoted as the proportion of young couples who will be expecting a child after a year without contraception, which corresponds to a fecundability of 18%."
I've personally been fairly careless for years in the past and nothing happened for ages. Then I've also been super careful and barely ever had sex and got pregnant and it's insane how that happened but it did.
Just relax and give it time. Stress won't help. Try to get in tune with yourself because it's possible you can learn signs your body gives off during ovulation. Eat good and stuff. Odds are it will happen for you in time.
Just luck of the draw I'm afraid. A friend of mine and his partner took a year to conceive.
My wife had sex with 300 guys 1000's of times. We were married 3 years before she got preg. So I don't know the answer. I just wish I had known her past before we had kids.
Yes it can be normal. I knew a lady that tried for 7 years to get pregnant and nothing. Then she got pregnant and after that kid, she would get pregnant if she even looked at a penis.
Sometimes you chemistry just isn't right and nothing happens. When it is you will make it happen. Just keep trying.
Go to the dr and both get tested, but months also isn't that long to try.