Is it normal that i can't get him out of my head?

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So, I am almost 20 years old. I go to college, like most 20 year olds do. When I am home or on break, I enjoy visiting my high school. It is a pre-K through 12th grade school. I have this 19 year old friend who just graduated from there who has a younger brother that is 4 years younger than me. Him and I have become pretty close as friends over the past couple of years, and I believe I may have developed feelings for him along the way.
However, I currently have a wonderful boyfriend who I love. I am certainly not ever going to cheat on him. But it's weird because I can't stop thinking about the younger guy. I don't know why. I want to continue being loyal to my boyfriend, but I feel bad because I keep thinking about another guy. I don't fantasize about us or anything; I just think of him. I just don't know what to do. I plan on being with my current boyfriend for as long as possible because I really do love him. I just want to think of this other guy only as a friend, at least while I'm in a relationship. Any suggestions..?

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Based on 12 votes (9 yes)

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TrustMeImLying

8 years ago

It's more than you dare to think about~

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- dirtybirdy
  
  8 years ago
  
  Damn you. I was gonna say that.
  
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- Liz_the_ginger
  
  8 years ago
  
  Hahaha :D I remember that song!
  
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  - TrustMeImLying
    
    8 years ago
    
    Dang. I wasn't expecting that. As your reward for guessing correctly:
    
    You should let yourself obsess about the new guy. Brains are like children sometimes, shake a toy in front of them until the fascination turns into boredom, all the while making sure nothing goes in the mouth. giggity. It's most likely a passing crush and it'll be flushed out of your system before you know it. Don't overthink it nor try to inhibit your thoughts. Doing the first can make the feelings real, while the second backfires many times.
    
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    - Liz_the_ginger
      
      8 years ago
      
      Thank you so much.
      
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    - reginaFalangi
      
      8 years ago
      
      That sounds like super good advice, hope it works.
      Never thought of it that way:just let it be, I'll try that too.
      
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CrimsonEye

8 years ago

You are getting bored with your relationship. Here I say break it off and pursue the other guy or take your relationship to the next level where you will be more satisfied

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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

"A younger girl
Keeps rollin' 'cross my mind.
No matter how much I try,
I can't seem to leave her memory behind."
Loving Spoonful
You aren't alone.

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- Liz_the_ginger
  
  8 years ago
  
  Thanks.. I have felt like I was alone in this, but now I know I'm not.
  
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Liz_the_ginger

8 years ago

I think I would rather it took more time so I could think. You're probably right about me having doubts. My last boyfriend told me he loved me but waited six months to tell me that he didn't really mean it. I just don't want that to happen again.

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Liz_the_ginger

8 years ago

So, my boyfriend and I started saying "I love you" before we were even official, and I believe that we really rushed into that and that is the reason to why I feel like this. Do you agree?

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- reginaFalangi
  
  8 years ago
  
  Rushing as in... You'd rather still be single?
  
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  - Liz_the_ginger
    
    8 years ago
    
    No, I mean rushing into saying "I love you" too soon.
    
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    - reginaFalangi
      
      8 years ago
      
      Yeah, i know. What i meant to imply was:
      Why would it be bad to say that too soon?
      Would you rather it took more time so that you could think throughly?
      Do you really feel it or are you having doubts? It would be normal to have doubts about truly loving someone you've been with for a short time.
      
      It might have to do with you thinking about someone else.
      I guess it has to do with you being unsure if it was too soon.
      Maybe you feel you need to take a step back and think about it again or something?
      
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ReginaFalange

8 years ago

I'm in the exact same situation. (but I'm in my late 20s)
I'm in a relationship and was planning to be with him (actually give him a second chance because we had been having problems).
And then I met this guy who I can't stop thinking about. But there's no age gap situation.
Actually this guy has the perfect age for me.

I'm completely at a loss, if you figure yourself out please help me afterwards!

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- Liz_the_ginger
  
  8 years ago
  
  If I do figure it out, I'll let you know!
  
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  - ReginaFalange
    
    8 years ago
    
    Hey!!!
    Any updates?
    I met a friend's friend the other day and he was really sweet and slightly flirty. And I felt really flattered. It got me thinking that maybe I just needed the atention because i've been kind of sad/bored in my relationship.
    I mean, that maybe it doesn't matter who the other guy is, I'm just looking for a change, or something.
    
    Is your relationship ok? Are you happy? Have you got any plans?
    Good luck!
    
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    - Liz_the_ginger
      
      8 years ago
      
      My relationship is doing good. I haven't really figured out what to do yet. Thanks, though. You too!
      
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