Is it normal that i can't fit it in me after 5 years?

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I'm a 23 year old virgin female, and I'm waiting till marriage to have sex. But I still masturbate and I can't fit a dildo in me is this normal?

I've been trying to fit a mini dildo in me for 5 years now, but I end up giving up, only thing that fits up there comfortably is the end of a tooth brush.
Manage to fit the mini dildo in me sometimes, but it's really uncomfortable and it's only 3/4 inch thick! (~2cm diameter). I've already tried lube and bigger sizes, lube help with easing it in (very extremely slow tho), and tried 1 inch and failed.

Now I'm worried that on my honeymoon I won't be able to have intercourse with my fiance. Or I'll need some corrective surgery (Not sure what doctors do for females with this problem)? But I don't want to go under the knife.

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  • libertybell
    5 years ago

    The vagina is at a slight angle. When I was a virgin I tried to insert an applicator for a yeast infection I was having, and the applicator wouldn't go in! I had been pushing it in straight up,at the wrong angle. It was very frustrating. I thought there was something wrong with me,but there wasn't. I hope this helps.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Oh yeah that's true! Never thought that was important when learning sex education years ago, but seems like it is now.
      Got to angle the dildo differently then, thanks for the tip! :)

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  • LloydAsher
    5 years ago

    Have you tried to be horny before hand? Now I know that may seem weird but if you were really horny your body will naturally decompress and allow for larger objects to pass. Guys can only jack off when we are hard how come the same can’t be for women in the sense.
    Also ease up stress is never good for the female libido.

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    • buddyroowho
      5 years ago

      Guys don't have to be hard to jack off

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      • LloydAsher
        5 years ago

        I know but I was making a point.

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        • buddyroowho
          5 years ago

          Oh, gotcha, sorry

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          • Dot123
            5 years ago

            hey buddyroowho

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            • buddyroowho
              5 years ago

              Hi dot

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      That is true, maybe it's just my fear thinking it's going to hurt and then it does. Also having anxiety doesn't help does it. :/

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      • IrishPotato
        5 years ago

        The fear definitely contributes.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Ah no wonder then, at least I know now what the problem is.

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          • IrishPotato
            5 years ago

            It might actually be the main factor. It really isn't that uncommon.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Oh that's actually a relief, starting think I was abnormal from the "no's" I got on this post. Now I know the problem should be easier to tackle now. :)

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      • LloydAsher
        5 years ago

        Try to relax and get super into it, work your way up the ladder.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Should I get a vibrator or would that make me more tense?

          I don't know how to get my self to relax sexually. I usually take naps or pat my rabbit to help with my anxiety. But my anxiety only pauses because I'm doing something relaxing, and it usually comes back straight away when I resume what ever I was doing that triggered it.

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          • LloydAsher
            5 years ago

            Once again try to get horny before hand. Yeah a vibrator helps but try to be really horny like being in heat horny. It will vastly help with the anxiety.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Okay I'll try reading erotica or watching porn while I use a dildo next time. Maybe that would help to get me feeling really aroused.

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    I think you should get a vibrating wand and put it on your clit on your honeymoon when hes going in. It will relax you and it'll feel good.

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