Is it normal that i can't do shit?!

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I can't get my self to do anything!

I can't get my self to study, lose weight(I'm getting close to chubby), sleep on time, to draw, make money(self employment), to write, to fill out/submit important documents, to meet up with friends(I cancel on them in the last minute), to respond to friends online(I reply a day later sometimes), to take regular showers, to look for a job(gave up after a year and don't want to continue to look) and much more! I feel like I'm wasting time and my life!

Whenever I try an activity I get frustrated or angry at the beginning and feel stuck and get sad later. Then I stop because I start stressing out or even crying!

Sometimes I can't even get my self to begin an activity because I feel like the outcome will be crap or I'll fail. Even when I know I can't improve without trying first or making a few mistakes first that I can correct.

Like today I sat down trying to write a very short story. I even listened to music to inspire me, but I wasted 3 hours stressing over it and wrote nothing and started crying. And I'm still distressed over my reaction to trying to write a short story for fun.

What's the fuck is wrong with me?!

P.S I see a psychologist for two disorders. But I rather leave them nameless, so I don't just get answers of that being the cause, since I'm curious if it could be something else.

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bucketfullofassholes

7 years ago

You have crippling depression.

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- keru
  
  7 years ago
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Okay, sounds plausible.
  
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RoseIsabella

7 years ago

I'd be willing to bet that you are a perfectionist with an inferiority complex. I also suspect some OCD as well as depression and anxiety. Of course I'm just guessing, because I'm curious.

I'm glad that you're getting professional help. Please try not to be so hard on yourself. Nobody's perfect, except for God, and he loves you just the way you are. I'm sorry, I know what I'm saying might sound so corny. I hope you can learn to love yourself more. It's very hard to succeed when you're afraid to fail.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Damn that's a lot, and yeah I suspected I was a perfection when I did my art, but looks like its has to do with more than just art.
  
  Where do you see the OCD?
  Yeah so am I.
  
  Thank you this has been going on since high school, but I seeing a professional again because its getting worse.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    7 years ago
    
    Perfectionism and OCD tend to go hand in hand. I used to love to write creatively and I was also involved in radio broadcasting, and as painful and embarrassing as it is to admit I found myself turning away from the creative things I loved, because of my own fear of failure and fear of rejection. I personally struggle with issues around being afraid to try, and for me it all started with a period of very deep depression, and personal loss back in 2001, I reached a second rock bottom in my life in 2008, and I'm just now starting to have hope again.
    
    I don't know how old you are, but in my mind's eye I imagine that you are quite young. I myself will be 47 on the 14th of the month so sometimes I feel like it's all over for me or like it's too late for me. I guess I just really want to encourage you and other people, particularly young people, because it somehow helps me emotionally and spiritually. It's such a waste to let that pain and fear swallow you up, and paralyze that precious creative energy within you. If you have desire to be creative it's part of you; it's God's gift to you and your gift to the world!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Thank you so much for those inspiration words. I managed to write a short story today, its not perfect but its something. And I'm proud of actually completing something today. Even if its not excellent its good enough for trying at least.
      
      Yeah I'm 21 and I do have a huge fear of failure. I need to try to overcome it and stop finding comfort of doing nothing to avoid the chance of failing.
      
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- Ellenna
  
  7 years ago
  
  Good reply except for irrelevant reference to non-existent deity
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    7 years ago
    
    You can't prove that God doesn't exist. My belief in God is just as strong as your disbelief. I'd really appreciate some respect as I don't harass you about your lack of belief. For the most part I like you despite the fact that you're more liberal and I'm more conservative, but don't appreciate it when you never miss a chance to bash religion, particularly Judeo-Christian religion.
    
    I'm sorry that you had a bad experience with Catholicism in your youth, but my experience has been the opposite. Words cannot fully or adequately express the good that Jesus Christ and the Church he founded have done in my life. I will stand by my belief in Christ til my dying breath!
    
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    - Ellenna
      
      7 years ago
      
      I didn't have a bad experience with catholicism in my youth but with fundamentalist protestant christianity: fortunately I began to question it when my adolescent brain kicked in.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        7 years ago
        
        Well, that's another thing we have in common then, because I've my share of bad experiences with Fundamentalist Christians. I used to get defensive, then this weird thing happened.
        
        I started missing an especially tolerant girlfriend who loved everyone and had died a few years prior, so I just randomly called the minister from her funeral. There I was a white suburban Catholic chick telling this Black Baptist Minister about this awful experience I had with this stupid girl who answering the phone at a non denominational church in Vegas. To be honest she started out talking bad about Lutherans and then started talking about Roman Catholics. I was really freaked out because everyone there had been super nice except for this one awful girl. The really shitty thing about some people is they're the ones being assholes but it's their victims who feel the shame. Well, it was that African American Baptist preacher who straight up called it like is and told me the girl on the phone was a bigot. Since then I've felt quite validated in such struggles and ready to call any fundamentalist who attacks Roman Catholicism a bigot, but for some odd reason I haven't run into anyone like that girl again. Maybe I don't get out enough anymore, I dunno.
        
        That preacher also told me, quoting scripture, to love my enemies, but I don't think I have to tell you that I still struggle quite a bit with that to this very day.
        
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  - MR.mr
    
    7 years ago
    
    Just because you don't believe doesn't mean He's not real.
    
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Roustabout

7 years ago

You need a laxative.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  This made me laugh.
  But yeah nope not it.
  
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jethro

7 years ago

You have time and energy to come here and complain. So you are not completely useless. take that effort and apply it to something useful.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Yeah I can still do somethings like eating and talking here. Just the things I love to do are harder for me to mentally start them.
  
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Babybloodknuckles

7 years ago

Fucking hell

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  What?
  
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MR.mr

7 years ago

Living a similar life. I'm not as under motivated as you but I'm still at a level that I can understand.
Good luck

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Thanks, hopefully therapy helps.
  
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Ellenna

7 years ago

You sound depressed to me, and how come you're not talking to your therapist about this?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  I will, I have a lot of other issues I'm trying to deal with first, like my fucked up family. But I will talk to my psychologist about this.
  
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Smokey1D

7 years ago

I don't rhink you should concern yourself about a diagnosis from us. We're just guessing. It's just a label anyway. It's great you are getting professional help. Follow their advice. Have you shared this with them?

I find that if I make a start - just get dressed and turn up; or pick up a coloured pen and draw anything or write a list of things I need to do....it helps. Feels great when I get to tick one off as done.

What about a diary or journal combining pictures and your writing and snippets of interesting stuff - keep it positive. What about an audio story if you don't feel like writing?

Sometimes trying an activity in a new space can be motivating. Do it in a different room or outside or in a car parked in a nice spot even. It doesn't matter if it's no good. A start is good.

Remember we're all good and bad at things. All of us. And that's OK.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Thanks for the tips.
  I've tried doing little by little now, to at least start something so that's good.
  
  No I haven't yet because I just realised it a few weeks ago. But I will when I go to my next appointment.
  
  Yeah I need to come to realise that, and find a way to destress, because I know breathing exercises don't really work for me.
  
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surreypro

7 years ago

This is the problem with the prosperity of western civilization. People don't have to work so they don't, and they become weird and useless. If you had no money and lived in South America, you wouldn't have time for any of this introspection and you'd work and be normal.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  I've been like this even when I had a job. And it effected my work negitivly too.
  And my country isn't that western, more mixed with other cultures now.
  
  I wouldn't, working doesn't make me normal, the problems are still there like I said above.
  
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  - surreypro
    
    7 years ago
    
    What is your country?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Australia, and I live up in the part with a lot of natives and immigrants.
      
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      - surreypro
        
        7 years ago
        
        Australia is a rich nation with all that entails, including weird introspective psychological problems where none existed just a few decades ago.
        
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