Is it normal that i can't believe compliments people give me?

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I've always been very insecure of my looks. People have given me numerous compliments, and not when I ask for their opinion, a couple times strangers just walk up to me. Of course, I be polite, but I just can't bring myself to believe them. It makes me feel good that they think I'm beautiful or pretty, but then it's like, "But I know better", or something. My friends and family tell me I'm overcritical of my looks, and that I don't need to wear makeup or diet or anything. Yet I still end up crying at the mirror. Also, I don't do this for attention, I'm just trying to be as honest as possible. I don't understand myself; I really wish I could just believe them.
Is this normal?

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82% Normal

Based on 33 votes (27 yes)

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dirtybirdy

9 years ago | pl

I'll take them if you don't want them. I hate to see things go to waste.

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- TrustMeImLying
  
  9 years ago
  
  Yet you love to see waste go to things, you filthy bird. *wipes bird poop off coat*
  
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    9 years ago
    
    You can never be too safe. Birds shit like every 15 minutes. You've been warned.
    
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worriedgirlhere

9 years ago

When someone takes time out of their day to say something nice to you, it's extremely kind and wonderful. A lot of times when people compliment me, I am a little speechless because I'm kind of like you...it's as if I wasn't expecting it? But a compliment is a compliment, and I take it.
It's difficult, but we need to try to stop being so critical of ourselves.
I heard this somewhere: Most people don't really give a fuck/pay attention to what you or others look like. They care mostly about how they look themselves.

I still go out with makeup on most days just to feel more comfortable, but I think it's important to know that we should be judged on how we act, not necessarily on how we look.

Also, I find the best compliments are the ones about who I am as a person, which usually come from close friends that have got to know me, rather than on my looks by strangers.

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kingofcarrotflowers

9 years ago

The first thing that happens mentally if someone tells me I'm cute or something like that is usually, hmmmmmm? Why are they saying that? Haha

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- dirtybirdy
  
  9 years ago
  
  Because it true!!!!! ;;;ppp oh noo!!! It's the triple lickywink!
  
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  - kingofcarrotflowers
    
    9 years ago
    
    Thanks birdy :)
    
    You're pretty damn cute yourself ;p
    
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July

9 years ago

I have also thought i was ugly but then 3-4 boys told me that i looked pretty, now i am confident lol, sometimes pretty people think they're ugly, and sometimes ugly people think they're pretty..

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Hoppy2015

9 years ago

I do have 160+ lbs of muscle on me out of 215 lbs of my weght since I'm an offensive guard playing football, but I have not met a single lady that likes our type of body type. When I meet an awesome and pretty girl, I tell my mind to screw off so I don't lie to myself about having a chance with her. Then you got your kids who don't do sht with their life picking up all the girls. What's sad is I can't self motivate myself to get out of feeling sorry for myself, just keep crying once every week or so like a baby even though I play one of the meanest positions in football, how ironic.

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Hoppy2015

9 years ago

I know for sure compliments people give me are to make me feel better about myself, and it pisses me off. They say it for a reason, you can tell if they really mean it, and people do this shit. I want to smack these crappers. When I got acne (not terribly bad) and an extra 40 pounds on me, I don't look good. People who say I'm hansom, I secretly say "fuck off" in my head, unless I know they mean it.

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Why is it you think all these people are liars? Isn't that just a little bit ridiculous? Why would a complete stranger walk up to you and lie right to your face?
You have a serious problem and it's got nothing to do with what you look like. Since you can't accept anybody's word for things, how about you go pay a shrink a buck fifty an hour and maybe at that price you will believe what they have to say?

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- RoseIsabella
  
  9 years ago
  
  I wish a good shrink charged $50 an hour!
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    $150.00
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      9 years ago
      
      I remember one for over $200.00 an hour.
      
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Ok yeah I understand that that scenario's a bit ridiculous. And I don't necessarily think they're liars, I just think that's how they see me through their eyes, and that I don't see the same thing.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    That's the point; you don't have to. Just accept what they say. Realize that your view of yourself is unrealistic and inaccurate.
    It's the why you can't see yourself as others do which is your problem. I hope you aren't having eating disorders or such because of this problem.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      No, no eating disorders. And I try my best, but thanks.
      
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