Is it normal that i can force myself to forget things that hurt?

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I'm wondering if it is normal to forget people you really loved with all your heart and more that passed away just in order to move on? My grandpa died in 2009 and I swear to god, if he should stand in front of me now I wouldn't be able to know who he is and what he wants, okay I get that its been so long now but even my grandma, she died in 2015, literally 1 year 25 days ago, if she'd pitch up I would even know who the hell she was!! I had absolutely NO time to mourn either of their deaths, whenever I did cry a bit and somebody saw me they'd be all like I should move on or get over it (like same day...). It really makes me hurt to know that I can't remember either of them anymore and we were extremely close - they raised me. Now they're nothing but vague memories...

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago

    I'm not a psychologist, and honestly, I have no idea what I'm talking about, but it doesn't seem healthy to bury your pain like that. What about all of the good memories, and all of the things you learned from your grandparents?

    I've learned so much from my grandmother, and I'm in the process of losing her, and it is painful, but I wouldn't trade that for all of the memories and wisdom she's imparted. I know that sounds stereotypical, but it's true.

    When you banish your memories to relieve the pain of losing someone, you banish all of the good memories, the lessons, and the love, and the stories. Why would you do that?

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    • Chrissi
      8 years ago

      TBH, I really don't have the time to properly get over things like that... I'm juggling 2x 7 day jobs to survive and then on top of that I need to work in the family, then I need to find the time somewhere to study in between all of that and then when all is done for the day, I am so tired that I can't even sleep so I take a handful of pills and then I'm ready to repeat it all over again.

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    • mysistersshadow
      8 years ago

      You give very good advice it makes me wish I had a sister that was smart and cared about me becos I think it would be alot like you.

      I been rambling alot today so anyone reading this can probly safely skip it but I was at a Home Depot or Lowes or one of those huge warehouse hardware stores with a couple I know and they were looking to buy stuff to put up some shelves and we came across this sad looking older lady that worked there. I almost think we woke her up and she couldn't really understand my friend so I kinda took over and told her what we were looking for and she helped us find it and the whole time I'm just talking to her and I can tell she really likes telling me all these things about dishwashing and cutting boards and just stuff like a grandmother would pass on and I told her she should make a blog with all the things she knows but she said she didn't know how to do that and then it made me incredibly sad when we left and I realized I'll probly never see her again and everything she knows will be lost when shes gone.

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      • yu-gi-ohChampion25
        8 years ago

        that's so fucking stupid hopefully she'll die soon.

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        • mysistersshadow
          8 years ago

          I am really sorry for what ever has made you so angry I know I'm not perfect by any measure but still I can see the beauty of the world and the only person I can blame for how I feel is me. So my wish for you is to find a way to your peace being angry isn't fun.

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      • CountessDouche
        8 years ago

        It's ok, haha- I rant on here quite often. If ever you feel alone, there are quite a few people on here, including myself, that would be more than happy to be a friend if you need. : )

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        • mysistersshadow
          8 years ago

          I am sorry for taking another topic away from its purpose I know I am selfish and I am trying to be less like that. Anyway I do have something more I wanted to talk to you about but someone elses topic isn't the place and really not put it out in the open for everyone to mock but not sure how to do it.

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  • yu-gi-ohChampion25
    8 years ago

    that sounds like wolverine's powers. quit being such a little crybaby faggot.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I tried that and fucked up my memory real bad :/

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  • xfg13
    8 years ago

    Ha ha... someone told you to move on and get over it the same day that they died? You have great friends.

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    • yu-gi-ohChampion25
      8 years ago

      they should all join hands and mourn him forever. not.

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