Is it normal that i am scared of the thought that 1 day the spark will be gone

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I was in a long term relationship for 13 years. He was amazing to me and loved me very much. However, in the last few years of our relationship, he loved me still, but more of a sibling. He had other priorities... So I left. I am now with an amazing guy, who treats me exactly how I want to be treated. He loves me very much. But my fear is, that the same thing that happened with my ex will happen again.

Is it normal that I have this fear? Or am I being completely irrational?

Reading this I found online doesn't help :/

Unfortunately, being in love usually doesn't last forever. It's an impermanent state that either evolves into a long-term, codependent relationship that psychologists call "attachment," or it dissipates, and the relationship dissolves. If there are physical or social barriers inhibiting partners from seeing one another regularly — for example, if the relationship is long-distance — then the "in love" phase generally lasts longer than it would otherwise.

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Dude, I´m all the same.

    I made a vow to myself to never stay with someone if the spark vanishes so I do my part to keep it up and I expect my partner to do the same.

    Growing up with parents that is still together but never showed much of affection towards one another have scared me to become like them.

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    • daydreamer394
      8 years ago

      Same, and my parents were the same.

      I'm scared of getting bored of people, of the 'honeymoon phase' and exciting new romance fizzling out, which is confusing because I also want a long-term relationship.

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      • (s)aint
        8 years ago

        How long is the longest relationship you have been in?

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