Is it normal that i am not the option for relationships?

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Hello everyone, I'm an 18 year old girl. My problem is I can't concieve a relationship and even friendships are hard for me. I will describe myself and some experiences...I'm an american girl, not ugly for the western stereotype, 5'4, relatively normal looking, with a bit of jewish ancestry. I am an only child and tend to be alone most of the time, I enjoy reading sci-fi and mystery stories or novels,watching films and learning about philosophy or physics. I can be really quiet sometimes and get excited with knowledge. I am sometimes impatient about most things but usually I have a good sense of humor, yet many guys find me unappealing, boring and would prefer if I went out more, to parties and talk about make-up, which I can do... But it's just not really ME. It's hard to make friends and even have boyfriends because everyone finds me odd, and nobody seems to understand the existential crisis we're all going through, anyway...is this normal? Am I ever going to be able to have a "normal" relationship, those ones with cute couple pictures and dates? Or friends that stand by you?

Thanks.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    7 years ago

    I believe most people around the age of 18 are yet to have the ability to understand the concept of introversion, or really any personality that doesn't conform to the majority. If you can, read "Quiet" by Susan Cain. It might help you understand yourself a bit and get bits of self-reassurances. It made me realize that I faked being an extrovert a lot in my teens, because I thought it was weird that I wanted a lot of alone time, or that I preferred low-key outings and small groups way more than flamboyant parties or large gatherings. Or that even though I was a chatterbox, being silent with someone was so damn comforting instead of awkward.

    It can be tricky finding the line between people trying to change who you are, and pushing you out of your comfort zone. Consider yourself unlucky because all the things you describe about you -- interest in physics, philosophy, sci fi films, excitement for knowledge, non-obsession with makeup -- all make you very interesting and dateable/friendable in my book. And I assure you there are others out there who will feel the same, it's just a matter of you meeting those kind of folks, which can be difficult/delayed when you enjoy being alone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Thank you, this really cheered me up. I will try to read Quiet.

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  • TurtleBurger
    7 years ago

    You're 18, most people around your age are into misbehaving and partying, it's just the folly of youth. You're not into that and that's totally fine. When you're older you will meet people who are more inline with your likes and interests so don't even bother with a relationship at the moment because people your age are not at that maturity level yet that it's even worth pursuing.

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  • JazzDiva
    7 years ago

    Your only 18. From this post you dont care much about yourself. Love your self and stop trying to fit in. God made everyone to stand out. Its no rules to when someone should start dating, fall in love, have kids and get married. Enjoy yourself by being by yourself. Then youll have your standards formed for the right person.

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  • stimpysspecialsauce
    7 years ago

    Just flash your tits and pussy,it really is that easy.

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