Is it normal that i am bothered by this?

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Yes its a little old fashioned.

Heres what happened. I got asked out on a date by this male. Hes about five years older than me. While at the movies, he only brought a twenty dollar bill, and so when the total came out to a little more than that, he asked me to get out my student ID to bring the total more down. I did, yet still it was over. He then asked me to pitch in the rest. A little surprised by it all happening in front of everyone, but I did. OK, my cool is good still. However, when I casually mention that Im going to buy water, he says "theres a water fountain there" wtf.

This guy is broke dead broke. Anyway, I go out with him again. This time his car breaks down in the middle of the street. Being a good sport, I help him push it.

In retrospect, Im really bothered that this guy even asked me out. How can a guy ask a girl out then not even have any money to barely afford to take her out. It turns me off that he is not financially well off, or at le3ast stable. Is this normal? If a guy wants to make an impression on a girl, surely its not being barely able to afford a movie, or having her haul his broke down car.

A part of me is bitterly calling him a no good scrub, but then another part is saying stick with the good and the bad. But no again I want to say drop this broke bloke

Guys what say you? Girls what say you?

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47% Normal

Based on 19 votes (9 yes)

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victorygin

8 years ago | pl

The way I see it, he's bringing a crappy car and $20 more than you are to the table.

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- derpyderp
  
  8 years ago
  
  HAHAHA
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  No dipshit u missed the point. He INITIALY asked ME out, not the other way around.
  
  I got money honey its not an issue. its the principle of the matter. Do i want to invest in someone who cannot take care of himself. will i be the one to financially take care of him
  
  HES THE MALE hes supposed to set a good example. i shouldnt have to be the one
  
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  - Steve2.0
    
    8 years ago
    
    Because females are too weak to take care of themselves? Sexist much.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      hey get a clue go back and learn how to read.
      
      i said i was financially well off. hell i manage my money very well. i know what youre thinking. im not one of those broke ass ratchet hoes looking for a guy with money who is going to take care of me.
      
      its the principle of the matter honey. he got himself in credit card debt buying car racing stuff and made bad financial choices
      
      this turns me off. get the point?
      
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  - AkyraTheFurry
    
    8 years ago
    
    Quit acting superior, god
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      no its just gender roles that weve all grown up with
      
      dont act like you would let a girl take you out, wine you, dine you, and pay for you. wouldnt that make you feel like less of a man?
      
      honestly pal, think about it
      
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  - victorygin
    
    8 years ago
    
    You sound absolutely lovely. Let this poor guy go, and find someone who can actually afford it.
    
    Good luck, whatever happens.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      problem is he wont let me go. he still keeps on trying to court me, trying to ask me out constantly.
      
      dont get me wrong. when im with him, its fun. like i said im a good sport and we can pretty much have fun doing nothing. But i cant help but think these things in the back of my mind
      
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KingTermite

8 years ago

Does he have any redeeming qualities that would appeal to a gold digger? If not, dump him forthwith. If not, then evaluate him as a human being instead of his net worth.

Most of this question speaks to who you are, not him. Mediate on this.

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- Steve2.0
  
  8 years ago
  
  You are a fucking idiot.
  
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  - KingTermite
    
    8 years ago
    
    So... are you the new "itsnotnormal#" guy or was he you? I only ask because I think it would be polite to introduce yourself before beginning to vigorously hump my leg. Not that I'm judging you, not at all, I just had thought that the "itsnotnormal#" guy had wandered into traffic or something.
    
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    - Steve2.0
      
      8 years ago
      
      No. I'm merely screwing with you.
      
      The it'snotnormal guy is talking about amputees now.
      
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      - KingTermite
        
        8 years ago
        
        Oh, I figured you were just the latest incarnation, or maybe he was on PTO and you were covering his shift.
        
        Either way... try to be original, copying an idiot just makes you... (Let's leave that as an exercise for the reader).
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  in the long run. ok i will think about it
  
  i can see arguments over money,
  
  fights over who is bringing what to the table. i can see my family bitterly fighting with me over this broke guy who i have to take care of
  
  hes a great guy i just wish he was more financially savvy
  
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- Ellenna
  
  8 years ago
  
  Meditating would be good too. I agree with you though
  
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    8 years ago
    
    :)
    
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[Old Memory]

8 years ago

I agree with the OP. If he asked her out on a date, he should have had the money for the movie and the water. But he couldn't help it if his car broke down, so it was OK to ask to help push. He sounds pretty tacky. I wouldn't go out with him again, unless it's for an event that doesn't cost anything or the OP invites him and she pays.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I just thought ok well if hes having me drink flouride stained water from the fountain, wtf. how much of a good father will be he to tell his kids. no go drink from the puddle
  
  I asked him if his car has ac and waht he said was ROLL THE WINDOW DOWN
  
  what the hell. its the point that he asked me out initially
  
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  - ThingOne
    
    8 years ago
    
    What the hell. The point is that you have "princess" expectations. Such a grand sense of entitlement is the greatest of all turn-offs. Ask any guy.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      no its not. its just that im not one of the guys.
      
      he should treat me like a lady, not rough like a guy
      
      its a form of respect, not entitlement. like holding the door open. what? is that too much for me to ask?
      
      Id GLADLY cook and clean for him, so u see it goes both ways
      
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      - ThingOne
        
        8 years ago
        
        Your expectations cost money. Lots of it. Much more than what the two of you will save cooking and cleaning. Do humanity a favor and stay away from all men.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        8 years ago
        
        holding the door costs money?
        
        lol tell me how much
        
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green_boogers

8 years ago

I say you're high maintenance, and it's ugly. It is understandable that you would want somebody with a life that is better organized, and stable. But, what guy would enjoy your company when you get rattled that easily? I might be wrong, but your best bet may just be watching chick flicks with the girls.

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charli.m

8 years ago

I say you're an attention whore troll. Shoo.

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Goreforyou

8 years ago

Kill him and hide the body...

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Arm0se

8 years ago

Wow. Do you have a job to speak of? Why does HE have to pay for everything? At least he's trying, sounds like you're doing nothing at all.

Btw bottled water is expensive, and unless you planned on pay for it yourself, then you're a really mean person for trying to make him pay for it when you knew he was out of money. I never buy bottles of water when there's a fountain.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  go back and re read the part wherer i said i am financially well off and hold a steady job
  
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- Unimportant
  
  8 years ago
  
  You don't understand.
  
  Paying for everything is a fine for having a penis and a Y-chromosome.
  
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  - Arm0se
    
    8 years ago
    
    What if I'm still more feminine than my female counterparts? Do I get a discount? :3
    
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    - Unimportant
      
      8 years ago
      
      Not unless you have a certificate verifying your femininity.
      
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- Steve2.0
  
  8 years ago
  
  You want to cut off your arm because you believe in your mind you are an amputee.
  
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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

I dunno, do what you want.

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AkyraTheFurry

8 years ago

Way to be spoiled, not everyone is rich.
Take it from a guy from the ghetto

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- Goreforyou
  
  8 years ago
  
  I bet your from the ditch of the ghetto ;)
  
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