Is it normal that i am afraid to have or talk about sex with my girlfriend?

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I am not what you would call a "fit" guy, but I'm not obese either. Anyways, I have always had a very bad body image due to bullying and such. I always happened to be the target for everything whether it be fights or verbal and emotional bullying.

We have known each other for 9 years and I am getting ready to visit her (she lives like two states away) and I am terrified to even talk about sexual things with her. Like, she'll make a sexual joke and my stomach just churns and turns upside down. She has also made a few playful sexual comments to me but I always experience the same result. She has told me about her previous partners and their "sizes" (Biggest being a confirmed 8.5 incher) and I am only 5 inches when erect at largest. I don't want this to be one of those "is my penis size normal" questions but I felt that detail might help you understand where I'm coming from.

So, is it normal for me to be afraid to talk about or even think about sex with my girlfriend?

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry you were bullied, I know from experience how hard it can be to rebuild your self esteem. I went through a bad relationship where I came out believing that I basically wasn't worth anything to anyone. What I would recommend is instead, talk to her about how you were bullied and how you feel about yourself as a result. I think it will help her understand your stance on sex and open the topic for discussion.

    Now about your penis: you are average and an average guy has no trouble pleasing a girl. Also, if you are somewhat overweight, you have an inch or more of penis than isn't actually visible right now which you'll "gain" from losing some weight. How awesome is that?

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    You don't say how old you are, but if you've known her for 9 years I'm guessing you're at least in your 20's.

    It sounds as if your low self esteem is fairly well ingrained so I reckon some therapy would be a good idea.

    That churning in the stomach is fear, my friend, which could well make it hard for you to "perform" sexually, quite apart from your penis size which sounds fine to me.

    It's fairly obvious she's sexually attracted to you and that you'd like to reciprocate: time to do something to change?

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  • Murun
    9 years ago

    You have reason to be be confident. She obviously likes you, and women generally like men on personality and confidence more than physical things. (wish we were so sensible about them!) A 5" penis is about average.. There are even some advantages over a donkey dick.. When you're fully in and your pubic bone presses on her clit... ;o)
    Be confident, kind and imaginative, and if she's any kind of a woman she'll be into it.. If not at least you've tried.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    Phat is a dumbass. Don't listen to him.

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  • Phat
    9 years ago

    Okay dumbass you just told the world that your a pussy. Do you honestly think that this girl would give you the time of day if she saw you as the hunch back of Notre Dome. Do yourself a favor and grow a set. Man up and when the opportunity arises make sure you lick all of that pussy until she begs you to stop and then knock the bottom out of it. If that happens you can be Sheck for she cares as long as your taking care of the beard clam. Unless of course your a pole smoker and haven't really come out of the closet yet.

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