Is it normal that i always reject boys i like?

the other day i hung out with this boy that i have liked for a while now. i shaved my legs and showered and was prepared for 'anything'. eventually we were in his bed under the covers snuggling.. but when he tried to kiss me, i just didn't want to. i moved away a little and insisted on doing something else. i had no desire to kiss him back, even though i was sure, just the day before, that i liked him and was going to hook up with him. this is the third time this exact same thing has happened. what is wrong with me? is this normal?

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Based on 56 votes (26 yes)
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  • Anime7

    I think it's possible that you aren't infatuated with certain men but rather the idea of the mystery surrounding them. What I mean is that you like their personality or looks but just as eye candy nothing more. My best advice would be to get to know those men you like before you decide to go out with.

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  • dejaentendu!

    If this is anything like I think it is, you lose interest in guys when they may return the interest.
    You might just be scared; that's what it is with me. But see, if it becomes a pattern and you see yourself doing it often, don't let it get so far. It's not fair.
    For me, it's kinda normal.

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  • colourmoon

    i had the same worries because that happened to me a few times in a row until i met my bf. if it should be, it will be. and if you don't feel like doing it, don't do it, no one forces you. it will feel right with the person you should be with.

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  • Avant-Garde

    Perhaps, you're scared of commitment?

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  • wicked666juggalo

    I do believe you may actually not be sexually attracted to males. Sure you might have a crush on them, but that's due to the instinct 85% of people have to mate with the opposite sex. You may be pan sexual, and not know it. If you're confused about it, then that shows a sign that you may wish to experiment before you hop into a relationship with anyone. Besides, I do not judge you for what you did, even though misleading someone is very rude, you may have not been ready for it. I apologize if this at all seems insulting, but I am just giving out the facts and possibilities of the situation. All I have to say is, try experimentation with same sex and opposite sex. You don't have to have intercourse with either, just attempt to date one and then the other, and see what works better for you. Also being in a relationship and working up to sexual relations is a more comfortable way of adjusting to sexual encounters. It's not good to just be friends, flirt once in a while, then jump into bed together and expect magic to happen. Life and movies are two different things, in the movies it happens all the time, which is why I despise romantic movies. Unrealistic interaction is not the best thing to get your inspiration from. Best wishes,-Wicked

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    • this is really helpful actually. thanks for taking the time to write it all!

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  • ccjigsaw

    It could be cold feet. You think your ready, but your nerves take over so you aren't emotionally prepared anymore. Womens form of attraction is easily manipulated by our emotions. Men to (Sometimes lol) There's also the possibility that you enjoy the chase, and when you get down to it, you basically know you could have had him easily, so what's the point now? Just do a bit of soul searching :)

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  • blaster

    Ahh , don't think she means it that way, gotta go with saycheese .
    Funny tho , I love being teased , love it, love letting a girl drive me nuts I lap it up big time. Can never understand guys getting p'off with it.

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  • Saycheese

    Man if the guy that I like was going to kiss me I would want it. It hasn't happened yet.

    Plus it takes time, you really need to get to know them better before you go that far. Do it when you know for sure you are comfortable.

    I don't get girls who do this... be patient and the right moment will happen.

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  • ready2rumble

    I hate when a girl does that. I would start thinking that you did it on purpose to make me look like an idiot.

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  • Who_Fan4Life

    Yeah, most girls are like this. I and basically everyone that lives on planet Earth cannot figure out the phenomena.

    And I really like what djpatties said. It IS a cock tease. You're going to go that far, and then just reject him? What the fuck kind of sense is that?

    Sorry, but it just doesn't all make sense.

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  • PalestinianGuy

    Vagina dentata.

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  • blaster

    Yeah that is good but what , was it still oh - might jump in the cot after all these years - now ? and what about the others had you known them or built up to it for very long ?
    I think it's your inbuilt defenses subconsciously reversing up , backing you off , just encase it all goes skewif and you get hurt or used.
    Go out with somebody for awhile b4 you jump into anything , get to know each other and use to the idea , trust , first.

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  • Shackleford96

    I misread the title as 'I always respect boys that I like.'

    That will probably be my lone flicker of innocence for the week.

    This probably won't happen, but maybe you should get to know them for a few weeks(or even a few months) before you jump into bed with them?

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    • "This probably won't happen"- lol.
      no, I've known this guy for a couple years and always had a little crush on him.

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      • kit291

        maybe your just not ready to jump into bed with guys and ain't ready to have sex or if you've had sex your body wasn't happy with it so it's telling you.

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      • Shackleford96

        Ah, well that is good. From the way it was worded, it made me think that you hadn't known him very long.

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  • Not to be mean, but this is kinda being a cock tease, especially actually being in bed with them and leading them on they way you portray it in the story.

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